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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: Draco Vertolgr on April 10, 2012, 02:02:59 AM
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I feel like im alone like im the only furry on the planet when im here i know its not true but when im at school I feel alone and it kills me. i tired to change but I cant its what I am I love being a furry. I cant escape this goddamn feeling I **censor** hate it. I never cry but this kills me I cant helpbut to go to the bathroom and cry but on my way **censor** pricks call me a furfag all i want to do is yell **censor** off but I cant. can anyone tell me how to deal with this feeling of lonliness its literally killing me im sad, tired, and angry all the time
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Hey Deadraconis, don't let those people get you down. They don't know you and are just trying to find something to get a rise out of you. You're not alone either. I haven't met any other furries in my area and it is discouraging feeling like the only one out there, but just stand firm. You can get through this. You'll be okay. Just endure and reach out to those who are close to you. Find someone who you can talk to and just be yourself. If you need an extra ear, the forum is always here and there is always someone friendly enough to lend one. ^_^
Stay strong and I am sorry that you feel isolated, but it won't last forever. :)
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forget those people, they have no idea who you are and hav no right to judge you. I've dealt with those people before and they're ignorant and stupid. Just stick to your friends cuz they're the only people who will really accept you! You'll meet other people and there are those out there who accept it and find it attractive! so dnt get too down about it, anyways you have all of us here on the forum! :3
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agreed, where locals might be isolated as well as ignorant to expressed individuality, remember we are all different. every one has secrets and you should be commended for your bravery! X3
besides i bet half of those people are two stupid to count as high twelve, so their opioin shouldn't matter to much ^_^
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I feel like im alone like im the only furry on the planet
You are not. You know this, and repeating in your mind that you are will only make things worse.
when im here i know its not true but when im at school I feel alone and it kills me.
Believe me, you're not the only one to be lonely at school. Not the only one that has no fur schoolmates either. Just have a look at this thread (http://www.thefurryforum.com/forums/index.php?topic=18623.0) and see how many are in the same position as you are.
Hell, I'm the only furry that I know of in my county. Indeed. I've searched forums, sites, everything. It seems like the next furry I know of is over 600 miles away. And yet, I take it easy.
i tired to change but I cant its what I am I love being a furry.
There is absolutely no reason to change as long as you're not damaging yourself or those around. Simply being in the fur fandom does not do this. Don't worry about it.
I never cry but this kills me I cant helpbut to go to the bathroom and cry but on my way **censor** pricks call me a furfag all i want to do is yell **censor** off but I cant.
Aggressive and mindless responses will only "feed the trolls". Remember that no matter what situation, being angry will never be the answer when it comes bullying. My BEST advice is to simply ignore it. Completely. Totally. Don't even as much as look or BREATHE in their general direction. Mentally you should laugh at their miserable attempts and ignorance. But don't laugh at them. Just take comfort in the fact that you're better and you won't let them have the pleasure of seeing your reaction.
can anyone tell me how to deal with this feeling of lonliness its literally killing me im sad, tired, and angry all the time
Loneliness is a hard thing to deal with. Especially as a teenager (assuming you are) when genetics, hormones and the general public wants you to seek like minded people to socialize with. I understand that you want to hang with, talk to and have fun with other furries. Catch a movie, go to the mall and such. Though thankfully you can talk to other furries and share things online in the meantime.
Though does the fact that there are no furries around you, make you lonely? No. It doesn't have to. Your friends don't have to be furry to be fun. And as you grow older, the people you surround yourself with will be more open minded and able to understand what a furry is without misjudging you, so you'll be able to actually talk about fur stuff even though they are not furries.
I seriously doubt that the loneliness is "literally killing you", for if that was the case, there would be a ton of people dying daily due to loneliness. It's a bad feeling, but it won't hurt you. You just need to face the fact that you might not have a bunch of furries to hang with at the moment, take each day as it comes and stop being so negative. Accept, adapt, get happier. And if you are happier, the days will be brighter and maybe you'll be lucky and find someone? You certainly won't get any new friends if you're moping around.
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thx for helping but I have it under control now things are just screwy and this feeling (dont know where it came from) just made things worse but Im good now, talked with a good friend and I feel better.
I guess I was not clear on why I wanted to change mysetlf, the reason being is that since people found out Im a furry I have not been treated the same way, even one of my close friends ignore me now.
but I have friends that like me just the way I am too. i dont see them everyday but they are the best friends I ever had.
I found out that dwelling on the negatives will only make things worse so I will now focus on the small positives
Post Merge: April 10, 2012, 07:52:59 PM
thx puncia (yes im a teenager in my freshman year) I was under so much stress and I thank you for the advice. Im doing much better now I was chating with a friend and I feel ALOT better.
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Well, why did you become a furry? Sometimes when I'm in a similar situation, I think back to why I became one. One of the reasons is because humans are particularly boring appearance wise. Animals are just more fascinating and filled with visual personallity. But the main reason I became a furry is because the nicest people I have ever met online were furries. I may not come here very often anymore, as I have other interests, but all over the internet I've been, the nicest people I've know online I've met right here, or anywhere else furries happen to tread.
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thx thinking of why Im a fur usually helps sometimes but the main thing that has been working is me just knowing highschool is temperary and I wont be alone forever, till then I have the TFF :)
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Would this forum even exist if you were alone? There are tons of furries out there, but lots stay in hiding outside of the Internet. You'd be surprised who's been a furry all along in your life.
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yes I know that but it was the feeling not the fact I know there are other furs but at the time I was just feeling so alone