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Title: unexpected answer
Post by: Tika on April 03, 2012, 12:47:45 AM
hi every1 im posting this cuz its something that took me by surprise and completely crushed me. I dont know if its right to post it here but i need to share it

Most of the ppl who know me knows that i accepted being a furry a few days ago, i already told a few friends bout this who reacted pretty good. Some said they had no peoblem some other said it was cool even cute, but what crushed me was the answer i got from my mom.

After telling my friends bout this, and after i got enough confidence i decided to tell my mom, i started the talk with how happy i was recently and asked her if she ever heard about what a furry was. She said she didnt so i began to explain her wha a furry is. Then she said something like being a furry is like be a member of some kind of satanic cult i dont know really, i explained furrther what is the furry community ans why i felt happy those days, i also showed her the forum ans all nice people on it, but when i though she would finally understand, after reading what is a furry topic she just jumped out of bed and told me i was MENTALLY ILL.

That completely took me by surprise cuz worst answer i was expecting to hear was like do what u like, and dont get her support, but things didnt go like that. The next thing i remember was locking myself on  my room and start crying. I cried for like the next 45 mins thinking "if i hold myself back is wrong and if i try to be myself its wrong, then what is right?"

i just hope no1 ever pass through this as i did. I also like to thank every1 who took the time to read this, and i apologized if i posted it wrong and bout typos (im using my phone)
Title: Re: unexpected answer
Post by: Rasui on April 03, 2012, 12:55:31 AM
I am sorry to hear. Most ppl i know either shurg their shoulders or just pretend that i never said anything. Mom even knows.. well kinda she knows about it and seen me in my tail and ears. And thought they were cute.. wierd but cute. But other than that for me i did not have much troubles.
As well something i try to live by. It is hard though. The choices you makes rather they are correct or not it does not matter as it is in the past. And yes the past can hurt. I know but as i see it you can either learn from it and continue to walk with your head high on your shoulders. or run from it.
For me i much rather learn from it and continue my life..
I hope this helps a bit for you there. And remember we here are friends and family. :)
*Hugs*
Title: Re: unexpected answer
Post by: legolyle on April 03, 2012, 12:59:19 AM
sometimes we have to take peoples immediate reactions and opinions with a grain of salt-it's likely she didn't *really* understand what it was about. If she had, she would have realized it was simply a hobby or an interest. Like an interest in building models, or an interest in sci-fi, or video games.

Know that there is absolutely nothing wrong with what you like :P
You think it's awesome, because well, it freaking is. Just that simple.


I'm really sorry your mom reacted that way =/
but, it sounds like she really didn't understand it. I'm not sure why she'd call it a cult...and where satanic came from I have no clue whatsoever....
She may have been worried that it WAS some kind of cult, which...it isn't.
Title: Re: unexpected answer
Post by: Tika on April 03, 2012, 01:23:18 AM
thank you guys both of you, helps me a bit
*hugs Rasui back*
Title: Re: unexpected answer
Post by: Rasui on April 03, 2012, 01:24:03 AM
Not a prob. Every need ear. i more than happy to listen.. It's what i do best XD
Title: Re: unexpected answer
Post by: Luke White-Heart on April 03, 2012, 01:43:06 AM
I think that if you're happy, then that's all that matters. If you feel whole and happy, then other peoples opinions don't matter.
Hope that helps... ^_^
Title: Re: unexpected answer
Post by: Tika on April 03, 2012, 02:27:13 AM
It does indeed White-Heart i feel a lot better now that people is supporting me on this issue i had and you´re right, as long as im happy nothing else matters right? ^_^ ^_^ thank you again for your support
Title: Re: unexpected answer
Post by: Spirit Hamaski on April 03, 2012, 01:04:37 PM
That's RARE for parents called out on kids who are /furry/ as mental ills -.-;. My parent don't care/don't mind about me being Therian for 10 years and don't bother all arts i doing from G to Rated. As they THOUGHT that Natural Talent I got from.




Pos: you are happier with your own life to be furry so Stay that way! Don't Everyone's thought of negative eat inside you~.




Cos: Could fall apart from family love/care/support in around Adult when you go on your own :(. So try not let negative thought eat inside of your body.
Title: Re: unexpected answer
Post by: Tika on April 03, 2012, 02:25:00 PM
Hi and thanks Spirit Hamaski  ^_^  im not worried about Cos really, a lot of people is already supporting me on this, and some other they dont care, and ur right about Pos..im happy like this. I'll move on from this and all those negatives thoughs about my person will fade sooner or later  :P
Once again thank you
Title: Re: unexpected answer
Post by: Spirit Hamaski on April 03, 2012, 06:30:38 PM
your welcome. But still try not push everyone Include Here friend away.