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Title: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on April 02, 2012, 10:25:08 AM
Well... how to start...
I'm looking for a group of friends, like I see here or there. What kind of tight group of friend? One with who I can speak with them everyday, RPing with them in public furry chats, play with them in video games... all together, like a tight group of friends ((like I can see one))


I was looking for one since now... several years, a furry one since I'm in the furry fandom 2 years and a half ago, but... I always failed and I never understood why...


I tried to approach people, make effort despite my little shyness I had before, going in a lot of meet, and going in several people's house to know them and such... but I feel like I'm not an interesting person, and I never got almost anything in return. People even sometime dislikes me or hates me...


So I really need some help and/or advice about it.


Sorry if my post was kinda short, I have not a lot of time lately.


Thank you.
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: MrRazot on April 02, 2012, 10:35:42 AM
tantalise the poke thread, person above you game and quote the avi.
when I say tantalise it, I mean post in it whenever there is a new post.
Good hunting :P
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on April 02, 2012, 04:00:47 PM
Hum... is it enough to make a tight group? :x
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: MrRazot on April 02, 2012, 05:04:06 PM
I would think that from that I have become fairly tight with Lokyar and Anoni.


Just post on all the forum games and talk and have fun.
Even try the IRC.
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on April 02, 2012, 05:17:40 PM
Tried the irc, I speak time to time but it's hard :/

Otherwise, well... I hope you're right. After how many days you got your friends?
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: MrRazot on April 02, 2012, 05:34:10 PM
just have fun and socialise :)
you will make friends, the fandom has the nicest people in the world on it from all 4 the corners of the word.
It is doubtless that you will make friends here.
I agree it is hard to chat on the IRC but you get used to it :P
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on April 02, 2012, 06:27:12 PM
the fandom has the nicest people in the world on it from all 4 the corners of the word.
I don't agree with you. It's not without reason if i wish to flee France and come to USA... ^^"
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: MrRazot on April 02, 2012, 06:30:03 PM
no nice furries in france?
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Spirit Hamaski on April 02, 2012, 06:58:15 PM
come think of people from different country and can make friend through PM or chatting everywhere topics on this site.


For me, Irc and Secondlife to make friends but can be around in here as well.




Don't push yourself so hard to get friend around but you can talk about anything and people from here will talk back as well too with common interests :3
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on April 02, 2012, 08:27:05 PM
No, furries on France find me werd so they don't want to talk to me. u.u

Tried in second life, but too hard too. :/ When I try to approach people, I feel like I'm not interesting, so....
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: legolyle on April 03, 2012, 12:49:50 AM
hmm, well drake, I think I sort of know how you feel. Sometimes I wonder if most of us feel like that at a point in our lives-where we may feel like were the "annoying one" out of the group. So, I'm going to use a tad of logic here to hopefully subdue some of your fears :P

Firstly, when someone is the annoying one out of the group-he/she rarely knows it-in fact, he/she is ignorant of it most of the time. Which is WHY the other people mess with him/her so much-because they have no idea that no one likes them. It sounds to me like you may be a *bit* insecure in that regard. It's important you not feel like that, because when you do-you just reinforce this paranoia that you are not liked.
It is true, that sometimes people might just not like you. But you cannot assume everyone doesn't like you, or that you're not interesting :P

That's what makes the fandom great-you can talk to people, and they won't treat you like strangers too much, they'll treat you like good friends :D

Now, I'm not sure if you want to make friends IRL, or just furry friends in general. If you don't mind the friends being online-then just start talking to people via the forums. Comment on some art, do some PM'ing with people you find interesting-or maybe read some journals. Y'know, just get out there (on the forums) and just talk to people! That's the only way to discover if people want to be close friends or not :P

additionally-it *can* be hard to make some friends because not everyone does the same thing :P
not all the people that RP, chat a lot in IRC; not everyone who plays video games does much RP'ing. Just as an example :D
So, don't assume you'll be able to find people who do ALL of that stuff you mentioned. Just set a standard of making friends :P in general. Some you can talk to, some you can play games with, and some you can RP with :D

good luck!  ^_^
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on April 03, 2012, 07:25:31 AM
Firstly, when someone is the annoying one out of the group-he/she rarely knows it-in fact, he/she is ignorant of it most of the time. Which is WHY the other people mess with him/her so much-because they have no idea that no one likes them. It sounds to me like you may be a *bit* insecure in that regard. It's important you not feel like that, because when you do-you just reinforce this paranoia that you are not liked.
It is true, that sometimes people might just not like you. But you cannot assume everyone doesn't like you, or that you're not interesting :P

That's what makes the fandom great-you can talk to people, and they won't treat you like strangers too much, they'll treat you like good friends :D


French furs treated me like someone who is weird, that's also the reputation I got here. So most of them just don't want to talk to me. :/


I also tried to make online friends on this or that furry site, but as always, nothing worked.


Now, I'm not sure if you want to make friends IRL, or just furry friends in general. If you don't mind the friends being online-then just start talking to people via the forums. Comment on some art, do some PM'ing with people you find interesting-or maybe read some journals. Y'know, just get out there (on the forums) and just talk to people! That's the only way to discover if people want to be close friends or not :P

additionally-it *can* be hard to make some friends because not everyone does the same thing :P 
not all the people that RP, chat a lot in IRC; not everyone who plays video games does much RP'ing. Just as an example :D
So, don't assume you'll be able to find people who do ALL of that stuff you mentioned. Just set a standard of making friends :P  in general. Some you can talk to, some you can play games with, and some you can RP with :D



I would love irl friends, but I think i will wait to live in the USA to make them. Waiting for it, I would like to have some online friends :x and I know everyone isn't like me, but almost anyone is fine for me. I'm not really picky about friends, I just don't want them to make fun on me, betray me and such... it happened really often to me.
And I'm not paranoid, when I see someone who tell me I'm weird, or he dislike me and don't want to speak with me and such...


The worse about it, it's I really don't know what's wrong with me. People often ignore me and such but I never has been able to understand why.
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Spirit Hamaski on April 03, 2012, 12:32:02 PM
Here you met... all of us never hate you :) just try copes around with us as much as you could! :) try not to give up so much








-hugs- I know you can do  :D
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on April 03, 2012, 12:46:14 PM
mrawr... *hugs back* okay, I hope the fear I got won't bother me too much... :x

I have also a problem which doesn't help me for making friends... ((sorry, I often put more information later and later)) I'm not talkative... By that I mean I have nothing in mind to say at almost anytime. When I try, I'm easily blocked... :x but I answer easily to people, so others often have to speak with me first if we wish a conversation...
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Spirit Hamaski on April 03, 2012, 12:53:29 PM
if you want friend with me and go ahead add me on msn or skype


Keep your mind about skype I dont use mic or listen voices as Im deaf in real life.


:)
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on April 03, 2012, 12:56:33 PM
Aww... :/ anyway, I have still difficult to understand English orally.
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Spirit Hamaski on April 03, 2012, 12:58:34 PM
everyone does






English isn't my first language as America Sign Language is my first native tongue. So Everyone don't understand me as well :(
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on April 03, 2012, 01:12:18 PM
Aw? *tilts head* but I understand you
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Spirit Hamaski on April 03, 2012, 01:14:03 PM
come out of point you can make friend with who at same level of your english or like to be your friend. So I would like to be friend with you :3 from different country .




friends from across the country are BEST to have !
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on April 03, 2012, 01:20:11 PM
Aw... x3 thanks, but in around a year, I will be an American too!


By the way, i added you ^^"
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Spirit Hamaski on April 03, 2012, 01:22:30 PM
I'm Canadian~ :3 Upper of US xD As long You will IN North America~




which one you added :O - look at and wonders which as she have many Instant messenger on-
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on April 03, 2012, 01:31:15 PM
Skype, sorry ^^"

Otherwise, I think I will move to Pittsburgh, so at the north east of the America, close to Canada
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Spirit Hamaski on April 03, 2012, 01:34:50 PM
There Pittsburgh have one HUGEST con of furry ever is AnthroCon. I think -googles-






Okay here you go, [size=78%]http://www.anthrocon.org/ (http://www.anthrocon.org/)[/size] learn something new as prepare to move :3
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on April 03, 2012, 01:36:25 PM
Yes, I heard about anthrocon, but I move over there mostly because there are a lot of fur. And I think I will have more chances to see my dream becoming true ^^"
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: MrRazot on April 03, 2012, 01:38:36 PM
lol, maybe I'll see you next year in Europe before you go.
I'm going to Holland next year.
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Spirit Hamaski on April 03, 2012, 01:39:05 PM
Yeah and I want live in Ontario because of Furnal Equinox and Feral Camp also Anime cons as well. :3 Alot things I want go to live there as my Birth homeplace.
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on April 03, 2012, 01:41:27 PM
Aw really? Well, if you come in France, indeed we will maybe meet each other ^^"


And I don't really know that much about furries except in France ((*pukes*)) and the Eurofurence. Also heard about Anthrocon, but I learn recently it was also in Pittsburgh ^^"
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Spirit Hamaski on April 03, 2012, 06:39:46 PM
yeah, Would be cool to met you in there France :3




Well Furries in everywhere is more scary than you think. Im Therian as not furry but more lean to believe things like as Spiritual animal trap inside and communication through Soul and mind in same share.
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on April 03, 2012, 10:39:31 PM
If you say they are scary because some of them are Therian, it's very fine with me, don't worry about it ^^" I'm easily scared of people at the same level for everyone anyway... furry or not.
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Spirit Hamaski on April 04, 2012, 12:52:49 AM
Yah yah but I just tryin help you to get through to able make a friend~ :3
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on April 04, 2012, 06:09:33 AM
Okay, I'm sorry... ^^'
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on April 22, 2012, 11:42:03 AM
hello

I'm just wondering something... how many time I need for it...?
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: MrRazot on April 22, 2012, 11:44:51 AM
need for what?
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on April 22, 2012, 11:55:40 AM
Having my tight group of friend :x
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: RainbowDashly on April 23, 2012, 05:33:44 AM
Send a message my way sometime.  The way you described yourself in the first post..was like your were describing me.  One of the main reasons I came to this forum was to make friends--particularly ones who will accept me for who I am, because the "friends" I have now sure don't. 

I can't wait to hear from you!  :P
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on April 23, 2012, 07:09:53 AM
Heya ^^' glad to meet you, however I really have not idea about what to say... :x
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: RainbowDashly on April 23, 2012, 12:44:06 PM
I'm just as shy as you, believe me.   X3   

What sort of systems do you have?  I think it's much easier to talk over games.  Then we can go from there!
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Draco Vertolgr on April 23, 2012, 08:31:14 PM
Hey man you seem like an awesome person

Im pretty shy when I meet new people too but once I talk with them after I while I get pretty relaxed if you have xbl you should add me :)
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: RainbowDashly on April 23, 2012, 09:44:08 PM
Mind if I add you as well?  I'm sure we could have a fantastic time between the 3 of us!   :P
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Rasui on April 23, 2012, 11:18:01 PM
I am allways looking for some more friends TheDrake. you can add me if you wish. As well same goes for anyone.
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Draco Vertolgr on April 24, 2012, 12:43:18 AM
heck yea! my gamer tag is z0mb13 s1ay3r same for you too Rasui heck anyone can add me just tell me you are from TFF :3
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Rasui on April 24, 2012, 12:46:07 AM
I do have XBL. But i am never on. :(

Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Draco Vertolgr on April 24, 2012, 01:00:06 AM
yea I might not be on this weekend due to the fact I failed a geo test and Im not prepared for this one so It may be a while before Im on but if anyone wants to chat pm me :)
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on April 24, 2012, 08:17:09 AM
I checked on google... does XBL means XBox Live? I haven't it :x
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: RainbowDashly on April 24, 2012, 08:43:45 AM
Yes it does.  I posted that before you told me you only had a Wii, and a PC. 
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Maleficent on April 24, 2012, 09:04:40 AM
I tried to approach people, make effort despite my little shyness I had before, going in a lot of meet, and going in several people's house to know them and such... but I feel like I'm not an interesting person, and I never got almost anything in return. People even sometime dislikes me or hates me...
Do not waste time fretting over what other people think, or even how long the process of making friends may take. Based on my observations, if making friends is your goal, then you have arrived at a good place to accomplish that.
 
Wait, you have a Wii? Do you by any chance also have Super Smash Bros. Brawl?
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on April 24, 2012, 09:37:32 AM
@RainbowDashly: yes, but I don't think I will have a xbox, because paying to play online...

@Maleficent: And if people think I'm bad, or weird, like I often heard? :x
Otherwise... yeah, I have ssbb ^^' Also won a tournament at this game in the japan expo
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Maleficent on April 24, 2012, 09:44:52 AM
Quote
And if people think I'm bad, or weird, like I often heard?
It's not worth dwelling on. Become indifferent to their thoughts and insults.
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yeah, I have ssbb ^^' Also won a tournament at this game in the japan expo
OSHI-
My eagerness to battle you has decreased significantly...
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on April 24, 2012, 09:51:59 AM
aw... :x
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Nikolai the Lynx on April 24, 2012, 10:23:05 AM
How many people did you fight?
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on April 24, 2012, 12:57:31 PM
We was 27 at the tournament, and it was 1 v 1 v 1
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Nikolai the Lynx on April 24, 2012, 01:44:03 PM
Well nice one.
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on April 25, 2012, 06:19:22 AM
Thanks ^^'
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Lokyar Brightmane on April 29, 2012, 03:11:43 PM
TheDrake, you or anyone else on this forum is free to add me over steam :P Just let me know who you are in PM, and I will most likely accept!

Unless you happen to be Razot. :P Jk!
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on May 01, 2012, 09:55:57 AM
just if only your steam icon works... ^^'
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Lokyar Brightmane on May 01, 2012, 10:21:32 AM
Doesn't it?

Lokyar Brightmane is my username. :P
Title: Re: Looking for friends
Post by: Thedrake on May 01, 2012, 11:15:31 AM
added ^^'