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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: Kaprika on July 28, 2011, 07:47:15 PM
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i dont know if its possible, or if its approved or not...but i was wanting to maybe convert my mate to maybe trying out the furry life.
im all for individuality, and im not asking how to MAKE him a furry. but more to get him to...THINK about it. he already is ok with me, he thinks my yips whimpers and such are cute..he even gives me furry love, like licks and stuff.
he says that when i go to a Furcon that he would go too...i feel that he has the POTENTIAL to be a furry but he just doesnt have the want to identify himself as anything other than himself.
he is what you could call "in love with himself" and he cant imagine himself as anything other than what he is. im making him a fursona to perhaps get him more intriuged with it..he said he would like a lion dragon, so thats what im making.
i suppose my reasoning is, im SOOO in love with my furry life..and i want him to be part of it. i really think it would help me identify with him even more, and be even closer.
i was wondering what anyone had to say on this.
is conversion possible?
have you done it?
and how did you do it?
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I don't believe so much in the "conversion", but more so opening themselves up to it. Conversion makes it seem more like assimilating, and I don't think the Fandom should be like the Borg x3
Pretty much what I've ever done when it comes to opening people up to it, I influence them just to sit down, think about what it'd be like, get a taste of the community and so on. But let them explore there on out. It's like teaching a child something new. You push them in the right direction, and it's up to them to either make it work, or just disregard it.
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yeah..i suppose Conversion is what im using for lack of a better word
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I've never actually purposely converted someone into a furry.
Closest thing to it was with Shinzuu. He wasn't a furry until after he met me. He had believed the negative stereotypes about furries (which I didn't know until way later) until I told him that I was one. He checked out the forum while I was on it after that and realized that we are reasonably normal people (haha) and realized that he was one as well.
So I'd say just have your boyfriend check things out (like on the forum). Other than that, I think you'd just have to let him discover his furry side on his own (if he does have a furry side), because he's either a furry or he's not. It's a choice. *shrug*
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I've had the same issue with my mate for a while. He knows what a furry is, and that I am one, and he's even interested in it, but for some reason I can't get him to actually become *involved* in it. I tried to help him design a fursona, but he's hardly given any of his own input on it, so it doesn't "fit" him all that well. He sometimes browses the forum here and FA, but has never wanted to actually sign up for an account on either one. Some people might just want to remain more like "lurkers" than being an active part of the community I guess.
So I dunno. If you figure out how, let me know too. XD
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ill definately share if i find a way that works
:3
i got him to sit down with me today and i put the finishing touches on his fursona..were deciding the colorscheme now even.
but i think that him participating in furry things and getting a fursona is a good start, im happy with his tolerance of the furry community and he thinks when i do furry things its cute...and HE does furry things with me too (even doesnt mind when i wear my tail out shopping with him, or hy hat with fox ears <3
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you really can't "force" these things, some people just weren't meant for the furry life. but you can tell him that you really want to involve him more in your life, maybe you can even take an interest in his interests if he wants to check out your interests. worth a shot :D
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it's their choice to go into the fandom or not. but for the life=lifestyle, you can tell them that a large community is around the corner XD
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ive been wondering how to get people to join as well. my friend got his mom in to the fandom, she use to be a fan of the fandom the same with his bother. i guess the fastist way is to try to get them to be a fan of the fandom then soon they will join it. right now my dad is a fan of the fandom hes not a furry yet. but if any one has any tips on hoq to get people to join it please let me know as well because if i find a mate thats not part of the fandom i would love it if my mate joined... because iam not leaving it for no one.
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Same here. My Ex- Mate (Pretty much Mate based on how we act) is cool with me being a furry, but I would like her to get involved in the community. It's partly because I want her more involved in my life. The other part is that she is rarely accepted by people, and when i first joined the community I found that furries as a whole are accepting of people. The people I introduced her to are very un- accepting of her. I just want her to be happy.
So please I would greatly appreciate any suggestions.
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well i think a tolerance is a great start..so far so good on my end, im painting his fursona soon and he finnaly chose a name for it (he kept tellin me i could name it, but i said it had to come from him else he wouldnt relate to his fursona properly) he finally decided upon Midgarin..its apparently a name he's used for a while for various things..online accounts..Xbox live..
im gonna try to regularly draw our fursona's together..perhaps get him to feel MORE involved in it, i doubt he would make an account here..since he is rarely ever online. (thats my fault, im online like ALL DAY X3 )
but i think..that getting him to join it would really make me feel closer with him. its like.....iunno, we dont DO alot together anymore. and if he were to join in the fandom with me, id have a furry to hang with ALL the time!
<3
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lol Yeah that would be so cool. :3 I wish Heather and I could be like that. She doesn't even really want me to make her a fursona.
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well maybe you could see what her favorite animal is, and just..make one. dont even shove it in her face, just leave it layin around where she would find it and ask about it herself.
be sure to dress it in something she would love to, to perk her interests
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glade to hear your mate is joining the fandom... where growing each day with more and more furs >:3
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See thats the hard part I'm in MI and shes in CO.
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no, he hasnt joined yet. im saying he is making progress in that direction
@ reibukoneko: ok..well perhaps just make it for her and say you made it FOR her, but she doesnt have to feel pressured into accepting it as her fursona..
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well i think a tolerance is a great start..so far so good on my end, im painting his fursona soon and he finnaly chose a name for it (he kept tellin me i could name it, but i said it had to come from him else he wouldnt relate to his fursona properly) he finally decided upon Midgarin..its apparently a name he's used for a while for various things..online accounts..Xbox live..
im gonna try to regularly draw our fursona's together..perhaps get him to feel MORE involved in it, i doubt he would make an account here..since he is rarely ever online. (thats my fault, im online like ALL DAY X3 )
but i think..that getting him to join it would really make me feel closer with him. its like.....iunno, we dont DO alot together anymore. and if he were to join in the fandom with me, id have a furry to hang with ALL the time!
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couples furcon :D just make sure you're not forcing him or anything, sometimes when I'm trying to get someone interested in something I can unintentionally be a bit forceful :(
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yeah. he said he would be happy to go to a furcon with me if i went. *wags tail* i think that would be a AWESOME place for him to go with me, im SURE that if he could just spend 3 days immersed in our culture and people like a convention...then he would find the furry in him that i know could be there <3
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hehe try to bring him to fur meets ... i know that there are two dinner meets hear each month
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i dont know of any fur-meets near Maryland ):
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You can search around the web for them, there's bound to be more than a few. Like for instance Rocky Mountain Furcon is taking place downtown in my city right now ^_^
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i dont know of any fur-meets near Maryland ):
Maryland that in California right ? Google California furs or something like that, i did that but instead i typed in Ontario furs / furries and i found a few web sites. my firends bother was a fan of the fandom untill he brought him to a few meets then he became a furry.
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Thank you, Her favorite animal is a snowy owl and shes EXTREMELY sarcastic but that's where my knowledge stops. (I know its sad. We have dated, I've known her for almost 2 years. and I'm in love with her.) If anyone could help me with a fursona (including a name) that would be greatly appreciated. Just PM me.
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Maryland is a state on the east coast of the U.S., icy.
Getting him to go to a furmeet or a fur con is an excellent idea.
Also, this Yahoo! Group might be able to help you out with finding furmeets in Maryland: http://tech.groups.yahoo.com/group/marylandfurs/
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Maryland is a state on the east coast of the U.S., icy.
Getting him to go to a furmeet or a fur con is an excellent idea.
Also, this Yahoo! Group might be able to help you out with finding furmeets in Maryland: http://tech.groups.yahoo.com/group/marylandfurs/
i live in Canada .... sorry for my lack of US state knowledge... ive talk to some furs in rl at a fur con who where from the US and they got me confused on where they where from...
ive been trying to get one of my friends to join the fandom but his mom dose not like it and she made his sister leave... and she wont rejoin it
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whaaat.??? her mom is lame
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its a shame that closed minded parents sometimes drill out all the origionality, differences and fun out of there kid so that they would be "normal"
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true enough, that's why I hide all my furry stuff in a safe spot. my parents always yell when I act "different" XD
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me, i did that for a while...until i figured out that if i do it here and there long enough..that she will just get to tired to yell at me about it and let me do it...thats now i slowly got to dress how i want.
one day i just wore a collar...didnt say anything, just DID it..and she would tell me to take it off so i would..but she would see me wearing it again the next day. and id not wear it EVERY day, just randomly. and she eventualy got accostomed to it and didnt bother me.
THEN i started wearing other things like this, and did the same thing..the trick is to TRAIN your parents into it, wean them slowly into what you like.
:3
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Please stay on topic.