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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: Rhett (Twister) on May 17, 2011, 06:46:22 PM
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Before I ask you this question here's a little back-story:
Me and my Boyfriend have dated before (two years ago to be exact) and everything was amazing between us, but then we broke it off because we knew we weren't ready for such a serious relationship we were in, so we took a break and decided to go date other people. We experimented a little and found ourselves together again after two years. The reason we got back together is because my Father kicked me out for kissing a boy in front of him, and then I went to stay at His apartment for a few months until i could rent one for myself. Well it ended up that we decided we would be together again.
It's been about two and a half months since then and now we frequently are getting into fights about the littlest things. I can feel that we're growing farther apart, and it scares me.
Is this normal? Have you experienced this with someone else? And if it's not normal, should we find relationship counseling?
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its normal to fight with roomates. One thing you could do is sit and talk about the small things and why they upset you. Or go to a gun range and just shoot a gun. I hear thats a great stress reliever. The point is you two have too much pent up negative energy that you are projecting onto each other. try and find another way to let it out without. =)
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a relationship without fights is only a dream. the important things is that you two are willing to push through these hard times. I love Vee very much, and we've had our fights and arguments. In fact, last night, Veronica felt exactly how you're feeling now. You have to talk with your mate and learn to understand him. However, you getting kicked out of your house, and being together again because of that, it might be a bit too soon for you guys to be living together.
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Macid: Thanks I'll try :)
Shinzuu: I know, but I have nowhere else to go :(
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I understand that, and it's fine if you live together out of necessity, but it's still a little to soon to make it permanent, is all I'm saying.
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I guess i could stay with a friend for a little...
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well i could think your differences would bring you closer, in a way....no?
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im going to give you advice as a fellow fur that lives with her mate.
when your with someone, its normal for there to be fights..when your with someone and LIVING with then expect even more fights than with a usual relationship.
when your in a relationship you fight, but you can take time away from one another and cool off...but when you live together your around one another ALL THE TIME and don't get to take space breaks.
we fight, and we cant go to our respective corners and cool off...being in such tight confines forces you to have to adress one another even when your still angry..
ill tell you what...its hard living together, so take a deep breath...evaluate how important the fight REALY is, and pick your battles wisely
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Update:
This morning i suggested the idea that I move out for a little bit and he took it the wrong way :(
He told me I could just leave and then when I tried to explain but he wouldnt listen :/
Thanks for all the support anyway guys...
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Sorry Twister. Maybe you can explain later when he's cooled down.
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indeed. wait until he cools down first. if he still doesn't accept it, then it's time to move on.
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yeah, people do sometimes get tired of each other. thats why me and my sister fight so much.