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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: Lizzy on April 30, 2011, 09:39:42 PM
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So i'm sure a few of you must know i'm pregnant after two years of trying. And now i might loose my baby.
The Doctor said the baby looks like it may have attached to my fallopian tube and that will kill the baby and me if i don't get it removed (Which will kill it). there's a slim chance it will move to where it's supposed to but if it doesn't do this in the next two days i'm going to loose my baby. :'(
I really need to comforting here... and some advice as to how to tell my parents. My mate already knows and i can tell he's devastated but he's putting on a brave face for me.
I guess really it's just that i'm worried that to them it will be like an abortion.... because that's kind of what it is but i don't want to die....
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Oh sweetest dearest, I am so sorry. I can't imagine how hard it must be for both of you...
I can't think of anything comforting other than that you do have people around to support you.
I hope it works out though, I truthfully do.
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Oh sweetest dearest, I am so sorry. I can't imagine how hard it must be for both of you...
I can't think of anything comforting other than that you do have people around to support you.
I hope it works out though, I truthfully do.
Thanks you've always been really sweet to me. <3 *hugs*
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Although I don't know you, and really don't know what to say exactly..all I can tell you is that you will survive this. You have your mate and your family who, I am sure, love you unconditionally.. And I wish you and your loved ones the best of luck.
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Although I don't know you, and really don't know what to say exactly..all I can tell you is that you will survive this. You have your mate and your family who, I am sure, love you unconditionally.. And I wish you and your loved ones the best of luck.
Thanks. I think it's something a lot of people don't know what to say much about... i just... it's been such a hard year and getting pregnant was such a wonderful thing... i don't really know how to put it into words.
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Im so sorry to hear this *hugs*
Im sure everyone who reads whats going on will pray for the best for you and your mate.
You can also count on everyone here on the forums to be here for you.
I hope everything turns out the way you hope it will.
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Aw, I'm so sorry. In all honesty, I hope the baby moves to where it's supposed to, I really do. When it comes to telling your parents, the best thing you can do is... Well, tell them. I mean, it's a grim subject and it will be hard, but there's not really anything you can do at this point and there's no use in sugar coating things. It's not as if you willed the child to attach itself there or can help it for that matter. Sometimes things, as unfortunate as it is, happen that way, and it isn't fair.
If the baby does have to be removed, you really shouldn't feel like it's your fault. You have to take your health into consideration, too. I believe your parents will understand that. It's not as if you're deciding you don't want the baby or are getting it removed for an irresponsible reason. You also have to look at the fact that if it's not done, you both lose your life. What effect would that have on your family? It's better to save one than lose both. You can't help that this happened, it's not your fault.
I really wish you the best of luck. :c
I hope things work out for the best, I'm sure we all do.
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Thanks for all your kind words guys. Its nice to know that all of you care. <3
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*hugs Lizzy* It'll pull through. I believe in it and you.
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..i am so sorry lizzy, id be devastated if i was told this news...really, my heart goes out to you.
i really hope that the baby makes it..
as for your parents...its not like they can blame you, so just tell them from your heart that your torn to tell them this...but there is some bad news about the baby you need to tell them
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@KaprikaAZ: Thanks. that's good advice.
@Macid: *hug*
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My heart truly goes out to you Lizzy. It truly does. I think Mortis.Reptus has the best advice here, and I pray that everything goes well for you and you avoid the worst case scenario.
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Oh, I'm so so sorry to hear about that, Lizzy. :'( . Though I can hardly relate, the only hardest thing I've faced was my brother dying, I can say that while this may seem like a dark time now, there will always be a light. No matter how dim it may be, just follow it.
And as for your parents, I really have no advice, just go with your own feeling if that seems right. My prayers go out to you.
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Oh, I'm so so sorry to hear about that, Lizzy. :'( . Though I can hardly relate, the only hardest thing I've faced was my brother dying, I can say that while this may seem like a dark time now, there will always be a light. No matter how dim it may be, just follow it.
And as for your parents, I really have no advice, just go with your own feeling if that seems right. My prayers go out to you.
Thanks Cyril. We'll see in the morning how things have turned out. :/
Post Merge: May 02, 2011, 07:25:48 PM
Update: It didn't shift down and the doctor is going to remove it is in 24 hours so it has one more day to magically move, but pretty much i've lost my baby. :'(
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I'm sorry to hear that, Lizzy. I really can't imagine what it must feel like. But my heart goes out to you.
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Awe Liz D: I don't think I'll ever know what its like to have a baby, but i can only imagine how this feels for you. You should just tell your parents, i think they need to know.
Also, just keep your head up sweetie you'll get through this.
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Having a baby is a wonderful thing I'm sorry that yours must be stripped away from you. There is little I can offer that hasn't been said. I will say this, just be happy that this was spotted. Yea, this is as bad as news can get, but imagine if it wasn't spotted. You would lose the baby and your life. Even if you didn't lose your life, you would of lost your ability to get pregnant, but luckily that isn't the case right now. I'm sorry for what you are going through, its sad. It sucks because you seem like a real good person, but things will get better. Just keep trying, good things come to those that try.
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I just wanted to thank everybody who was so sweet to me about all of this. All of you were wonderful people and were truly kind and caring.
The baby and the Fallopian tube it was in have both been removed. I'm still fairly loopy from the drugs and stuff but i felt like i really aught to thank all of you for being so very good to Me and Eli over the last few days. Thanks you very much. <3
Lizzy
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Just keep trying.
The little one knows it had to be done and will be happy in the next world. Don't feel bad. You'll have a baby. :) And it will be so happy you lived to have it. I want to have a child too (not right) now, and I can't imagine the heartbreak you are going through. :( You have my hugs and my ear.
Sorry this was late :(
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*hugs* im very sorry to hear this happened. I wish you and Eli the best of wishes.
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Aw, I'm so sorry. :c
Best wishes to you guys, I hope things get better.
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So sorry to hear that. But I'm sure you and Eli will both pull through. It is a terrible experience, but don't give up. I am sure that you will one day have a beautiful family together.
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Oh my god, im so sorry, Lizzy! I only just heard about this, and it makes me feel bad that I only just heard about it. I'm sorry. *hugs for everyone*
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Oh my god, im so sorry, Lizzy! I only just heard about this, and it makes me feel bad that I only just heard about it. I'm sorry. *hugs for everyone*
Thanks. You're sweet to care <3
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I am relived that you are okay :3 your child is happy in the next life, and you may never know, once your pregnant again, it may come back. :3
best of wishes to you and Eli
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I am relived that you are okay :3 your child is happy in the next life, and you may never know, once your pregnant again, it may come back. :3
best of wishes to you and Eli
Thanks. We certainly haven't given up hope but it is a rather terrible blow.
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I'm so sorry to hear about this D:
I send all my good vibes to you and your child wherever it has gone. I'm really happy you are okay. :3 *offers hug*
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hugs, licks, and a sad face. don't die on us girl, i know you can pull it through. you haz my support
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How are things going? It's been a while.
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Update: Things with my parents haven't gone so good. We went to go tell them in person and they didn't take the news to well.
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May I ask what happened? I don't see how they're in the position of not taking it "well"*, it's not anybody's fault.
* of course, it's awful news and I wouldn't count being devastated.
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I just wanted to thank everybody who was so sweet to me about all of this. All of you were wonderful people and were truly kind and caring.
The baby and the Fallopian tube it was in have both been removed. I'm still fairly loopy from the drugs and stuff but i felt like i really aught to thank all of you for being so very good to Me and Eli over the last few days. Thanks you very much. <3
Lizzy
you're very brave, sorry for your loss :(
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Being devistated is really the least of it. They um - they said some really terribule things about me and blamed it on my imoral life style and told me god was punishing me. So... yeah... that and they said i should have tried harder to save the baby. it's just a mess.
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im sorry. "imoral life" the hell does that mean?
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I think it means her parents dont approve of her life. Its not your fault Lizzy. Dont ever believe that it is.
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just tell them that your choices have no influence on them and to not say that about you. they are misunderstanding people, who use their faith as a mask for their ignorance, mostly for how much of a nice person you are.
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i'm sorry hun.......*hugs*
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How could they even say such a thing, God is punishing you by this? !! That is cruel, even in a Christian family, how dare they. Real Christian families would feel sad about the baby's loss, so they are not true in their faith, do not listen to them hun. *huggles*
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i vinny raccoon would love to give your parents a piece of ma mind!
my advice is move out, get a job and live yo life da way you want too! be who you want to be and don't beat yo self over yo loss! learning from yo losses will only make yo a better stronger woman! and for your sake its not your fault! live happy and be safe! THAT's my blessing from me to you!
hope dat helped
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"Tried harder to save it." Ha! This is ludicrous. What could you have done differently? Repented and become a nun, praying every day for you both to pull it through? I'm not making fun of a religion here, but it's obvious that there was nothing that could have changed the outcome. Sadly.
This is ludicrous.
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Being devistated is really the least of it. They um - they said some really terribule things about me and blamed it on my imoral life style and told me god was punishing me. So... yeah... that and they said i should have tried harder to save the baby. it's just a mess.
I'm so sorry that you your parents decided to drop that on you. And out of respect for you, I won't spew the massive buildup of venom I normally would at your parents. If the way you act on these forums is the way you are IRL, then I can't think of any reason why God would punish you, especially in this form.
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im sorry. "imoral life" the hell does that mean?
My parent's don't recognize My marriage to Eli because it wasn't done in the church or by a religious figure.
I think it means her parents dont approve of her life. Its not your fault Lizzy. Dont ever believe that it is.
Thanks
i'm sorry hun.......*hugs*
Hugs back
How could they even say such a thing, God is punishing you by this? !! That is cruel, even in a Christian family, how dare they. Real Christian families would feel sad about the baby's loss, so they are not true in their faith, do not listen to them hun. *huggles*
"Tried harder to save it." Ha! This is ludicrous. What could you have done differently? Repented and become a nun, praying every day for you both to pull it through? I'm not making fun of a religion here, but it's obvious that there was nothing that could have changed the outcome. Sadly.
This is ludicrous.
My parents are difficult but deep down inside i know they love me. they are just, close minded would be a good word for it.
i vinny raccoon would love to give your parents a piece of ma mind!
my advice is move out, get a job and live yo life da way you want too! be who you want to be and don't beat yo self over yo loss! learning from yo losses will only make yo a better stronger woman! and for your sake its not your fault! live happy and be safe! THAT's my blessing from me to you!
hope dat helped
Thanks Vinny i already live in another city with my husband but the advice is still appreciated.
I'm so sorry that you your parents decided to drop that on you. And out of respect for you, I won't spew the massive buildup of venom I normally would at your parents. If the way you act on these forums is the way you are IRL, then I can't think of any reason why God would punish you, especially in this form.
Thank you.
@Everybody: thanks for all the kindness you have all given me. you are all truly wonderful <3
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im sorry. "imoral life" the hell does that mean?
My parent's don't recognize My marriage to Eli because it wasn't done in the church or by a religious figure.
I am assuming one of you is along the lines of "Aetheist"?
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I am assuming one of you is along the lines of "Aetheist"?
ah.. no not really - its complicated.
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ah, okay. well, i dont want to pry, so I wont ask.
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nom nom i'm sorry hun.........i wish that i could help you out.....