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Furry Chat => General => Topic started by: Kaprika on April 20, 2011, 05:39:53 AM
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...whats your take on them?
do you like em...do you want one...do you HAVE one??
my roomeate has a adorable 4 month old, and ive gotten a crash course in parenting as ive been around him since he was born and often look after him myself.
ive alwase envied those whom get motherhood, im a natural born mother im often told. i enjoy little Evan, though i ache with the knowledge that i may never get that joy with my injured back as it is...i couldnt carry a baby let alone my own self.
though im optomistic that mabey later ill get the help i need and can get a tiny little budle of love myself one day
so pups..what say you on them?
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Kids of my own? No, I don't think I'd like that very much. Not at this stage in life anyways. Would I like kids later in life? Yes. That sounds appealing, but I'm not sure if I'm going to settle down with a female. So there lays that problem.
I would say I'm good with kids because I've had much practice, with five younger siblings and being the oldest grandchild out of fourteen. And that I'm still very much a kid at heart. ^_^
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Kids of my own? No, I don't think I'd like that very much. Not at this stage in life anyways. Would I like kids later in life? Yes. That sounds appealing, but I'm not sure if I'm going to settle down with a female. So there lays that problem.
I would say I'm good with kids because I've had much practice, with five younger siblings and being the oldest grandchild out of fourteen. And that I'm still very much a kid at heart. ^_^
well adoption is alwase an option
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well i love babies, when they are certain age... when they begin to talk... thats when they get annoying (i have negative attitude towards about 5 year olds thanks to my lil sis....)
kids of my own..? maybe some day, still not ready for that at this point of life
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No babies for me, I'm quite happy spending my own money :P
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I postitively adore children >:3 *creeper*...........No, but seriously, I love kids. I WANT to have kids so badly. Just not right now, and probably not until I've settled down with a husband, steady income, house, etc. A kid in between that time I wouldn't be able to provide for him or her and I'd feel like a horrible mother. Not that I'd get an abortion since I'm against that, but I'll be very careful in between now and then.
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To be honest, I can't stand little kids now, but once I get settled down and a stable job, I'll consider it. I might feel differently if they're my own kids.
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No thank you.
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This is the hardest topic of my life, no joke. I go back and forth all the time. One minute I want a kid, the next I don't. Shinzuu has no issues with it. He's positive he wants one once we're all settled (AKA married, he/both of us have full-time jobs, financially stable, etc).
I will say that if it does happen, I only want one child and I would REALLY want a boy. I just like boys better, less drama.
The reason I go back and forth is the Positive and Negative that I come up with...
Positive
- Creating a "family" with a significant other (though you can be a family without children).
- Continuing the bloodline (not really something I'm concerned about, but still).
- Babies are adorable. Just look at them! (Looking at baby-related items in stores gets me going on the "wanting a baby" side.)
- Being a parent is really special.
- I'm good with kids. It seems like they're drawn to me when there are any around me. So I would most likely be a good mother.
Negative
- Lot of costs involved.
- Babies grow up into teenagers and beyond...they aren't as cute and fun to deal with.
- Pain involved in childbirth (I have a low threshold for pain).
- Afraid my child will have serious emotional issues because of how I am emotionally.
- Don't want my child to be mad at me like I have gotten mad at my parents or resent me or something like that.
- Risk of losing the child before I die.
There are probably more things on both sides and I'm just a worrier. I over-think things.
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I plan on getting my tubes tied and keeping the number for a good adoption agency on hand in case of a
miracle nightmare. Enough said.
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All I can say is that I hate children. I hate them since I can remember and since I was a Hatchling myself. And so I will never have children and never want a mate with children.
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Personally, in general, I hate kids. Ask any of my friends and they'll tell you that I say it just about every time kids come around; I'm not at all secretive about my hatred for them. Lol. But I'm torn, because every now and again a kid will come along and they'll be absolutely adorable or just really cool.
I feel like the main reason I dislike kids on principle is because parents these days just don't discipline their children like they should (like I think they should, anyway). When kids end up as bratty and arrogant as most are these days, I become incredibly upset by the apparent lack of effort on their parents' part. It just irks me when a parent can't even control their child by the time they hit age 6 or 7. That's supposed to be the time when they're innocent and curious, but instead they're just disrespectful, whiny, and downright insulting to everyone.
Example: when I was in Kindergarten, if I saw a high school student, I'd be intimidated and awestruck just for the fact they were tall and "old". But by the time I got into high school myself, all the little kids (well, most) wanted nothing more than to pick fights and insult me and my classmates to... impress their friends? I guess? I dunno. It just seems wrong to me.
Anyway, random tangent aside, I'd like to have kids someday. But not for a good while. I don't think I'll be settling down with anyone until my low thirties at least. There's just too much I want to do and see that I probably won't be able to if I get into a permanent relationship.
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I donno i like kids but i dont like babies
babies scare me for some reason. Not in a terrifying way more like, there so fragile looking im afraid i might hurt them kind of thing. Plus i get anxious when i dont know what they want.
I had the chance to take care of one when i was i think 10 (i was with an adult but they kept taking off on me) so it started crying. Well from what i herd from before, it must be hungry.... it didnt eat. Maybe tired, i kept crying. Maybe if i bounce it or try to make it laugh, only made it worse >.> and i got yelled at when they got back from what ever they were doing (making dinner or something)
Ever scents then i knew i'd rather adopt a 5 year old that have a babe.
I would like to have one but at the same time i just dont think i could take it until it can talk and tell me whats wrong.
I love kids though, i get along with them once they can talk or even scoot across the floor... just not babies >.>
is that weird?
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Not at all weird!
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I may sound heartless for saying so, but I just loathe babies. The very sound of their crying cuts through me like broken glass. I don't know why I'm this way, but at least I don't have to worry about babies because I'm gay. Kids are only a little better. I've had bad experiences looking after children, and I just hate doing it.
ugh now i feel like a bad person..
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Im not too fond of babies simply because of how fragile they are. the smallest bump, misstep while carrying, the tiniest mistake could end it. The psychological torment I would endure from hurting one would be immense so I try to keep me distance in all ways. Maybe when I find someone who would be worth it to have them with, Ill change my mind, but not now. :/
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I love kids, but only when they have parents that are doing it right.
I'm not saying parents with badly behaving kids are doing it wrong, I'm not saying that parents with nice kids are good, I'm saying that every child needs unique parenting to be somewhat behaved.
And I love kids when they behave. This means that they're not screaming and having fits in the store, they're not destroying things and they don't whine all the time.
I have one child in my close family and he is 2.5. When he was barely 2, he could dress himself and go to bed without a big fuzz. A joy to babysit. I love him very much.
And kids in general are usually adorable when they're in a good mood. :3