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Title: Death of a "Friend"
Post by: Rhett (Twister) on March 22, 2011, 12:32:50 AM
   Well, there was this boy I used to date and his name was John. We split apart after he moved to South Carolina, but we remained pretty good friends. We lost touch here and there but overall we maintained pretty decent contact to one another. About a year ago we got into a large argument and we haven't talked since. Today I was for some reason thinking about him when his sister called me and told me he had died. I was speechless. I didn't know how to feel, I still don't know how to feel. I don't feel anything over it, but I'm feeling guilty about that. What should I be feeling? How should I react to it? 
Title: Re: Death of a "Friend"
Post by: WingedZephyr on March 22, 2011, 01:07:17 AM
Sorry for your loss.

You're probably just too shocked to process it yet. Give it time. You'll figure out how to deal with it in your own way.
Title: Re: Death of a "Friend"
Post by: Alexei on March 22, 2011, 01:13:00 AM
I'm so sorry that this happened, losing someone is no easy burden.
You shouldn't feel guilty, everybody has arguements and people end up moving apart, and as Zeph said it might just be the pure shock of hearing about his death.
Title: Re: Death of a "Friend"
Post by: Ares the Ram on March 22, 2011, 03:43:47 AM
Sorry for your loss.

You're probably just too shocked to process it yet. Give it time. You'll figure out how to deal with it in your own way.

This. Sorry to hear about it. *hugs*
Title: Re: Death of a "Friend"
Post by: Jasper on March 22, 2011, 02:31:27 PM
Oh man, I know the feeling. :/

I lost a friend like that years ago, too, though the circumstances were slightly different. When we had a huge fight and stopped talking, the only people he had left were the "friends" who sold him the drugs he eventually overdosed on.

I'm sorry for your loss. The only thing I can say is that it gets better with time. Although, you don't need to feel anything: your mind and body will process and feel as they're ready to.
Title: Re: Death of a "Friend"
Post by: Daemon on March 22, 2011, 04:06:46 PM
   Well, there was this boy I used to date and his name was John. We split apart after he moved to South Carolina, but we remained pretty good friends. We lost touch here and there but overall we maintained pretty decent contact to one another. About a year ago we got into a large argument and we haven't talked since. Today I was for some reason thinking about him when his sister called me and told me he had died. I was speechless. I didn't know how to feel, I still don't know how to feel. I don't feel anything over it, but I'm feeling guilty about that. What should I be feeling? How should I react to it? 

Feel sorry for your loss, bro. *hugs*
Thats a curious sensation, though. Thinking about him just before you got the call? Thats kinda weird. I never experienced anything like losing a friend. Not yet, at least.
Title: Re: Death of a "Friend"
Post by: icy wolf on March 22, 2011, 04:16:38 PM
sorry to hear that. you shouldn't fell guilty for his death. with time you will figer out how to feel. you might feel depressed about it, just remember with time those feeling will go away. try to remember good memory's of him, the memory's might help.
Title: Re: Death of a "Friend"
Post by: iKero-chuâ„¢ on March 22, 2011, 04:28:08 PM
Feelings are never right or wrong, they just are.
& no matter what you are or are not feeling its perfectly fine.

Like WZ said you must still be in shock.
Title: Re: Death of a "Friend"
Post by: Grace.E on March 24, 2011, 02:48:55 AM
wow...thats awful, im so sorry :(
Title: Re: Death of a "Friend"
Post by: Count of Cutesy on March 24, 2011, 03:03:20 AM
Wow. When I saw the "Death" part in the title, I didn't think it would have meant literally.  :'( I am sorry for your loss. It's always sad to see a life fall from the land of the living.  :'(
Title: Re: Death of a "Friend"
Post by: SplitPersonality on March 26, 2011, 08:11:34 PM
*hugs* I kinda know how you feel, I had a boy I knew once who died....I was so sad *hugs* If you need someone to talk to I'm free always