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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: x on March 14, 2011, 07:50:43 AM
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Yes, so I'm the clingy girlfriend in question. I'm having some romance problems in my head, so I HOPE my mate doesn't read this....which he will. He may indeed stumble upon it. Ya know, I'd like to speak about this with him, but I can't when he's not there. Go figure.
So me and Entaru hit it off right? Total match like B-I-N-G-O. Same thinking, same twisted enjoyments, yadda....We're cruising along, hit a few bumps, but pick ourselves up and get cruising again. It's been almost a year and I hope to meet him soon. He has made a few claims that seem to back up the way I only have one photo of him, why he's gone so much lately....see, this wouldn't be a problem for me because I'd understand. I've dissapeared on him a few times myself. (though I like to at least drop a note saying where I went the moment I get a chance...he has a phone but doesn't think to send me a text saying "hey, i can't talk this weekend"...he just up and goes)
That's not the issue. The issue is, is that I worry too much. I haven't met him yet. I don't know what he's really like. Until I meet him, I have no idea what's going on over there on his end...he doesn't seem to understand how it pains me when he is so distant. Distant even when we talk, not wanting to speak beyond a few words, and while I admit I don't talk much either I wish I could get something larger than "cool" or "what are you doing?" for a conversation.
It scares me. It scares me because I have fallen so hard for this man that I would do whatever he said, even if he said to shut up and stop worrying, and if he broke my heart I could NEVER repair the scar for I will never find an equal soul like his.
So....is clingy girlfriend being too clingy? Or is there something to my worrying? What should I do?
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Just tell him what you have told us? That you'd like to see a note so you won't worry because you care so much.
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:S I would say don't worry, cuz you don't need the stress to make you more worried than you are already. Just have a bit of faith in him. If you messed up in the past there is nothing you can do to change that now, so don't worry about that stuff cuz it would be childish to be spiteful by this point. And if you love him, give him the time he needs to do what he must, so he can pay all his attention on you. ;)
But you should talk to him about what you both want from the relationship if you want it to further bloom in your partnership. But when you get the chance, for now give the man his time to clear his head and he'll come back when he's finished.
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I suppose I should give him more time, I only wish it was the first time . But I do have faith in him. It's just so hard because sometimes I stay up all night or this time for days waiting for him to say something, anything. I have in the past sent messages saying I was worried but they went unanswered.
I'm sure it will be okay. I'm just a major worry wort. And of course I want to tell him what I've told you, and maybe speak on more than that, just waiting until he comes back ^_^ ;
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:Huggles: Don't worry you'll be just fine. ^_^ You've got plenty of friends here to rant with if ya need somebody to talk to, to pass the time at least.
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thank you! *huggles back*
I iz not alone-ness...