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Furry Chat => General => Topic started by: Kaprika on March 08, 2011, 11:27:23 PM
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lots of people have different walks of life being a fur...some live in socialy accepting states and can therefore be open and free about there furself..and they have loving families that care not whethere there heart belongs to that of two legs or four.
they have lots of friends and couldnt possibly be a happier fur
but ive seen others whom cant be fury anywhere but in there own heads and online, and sometimes not even that.
i always wonderd why some have it so much harder than others being fur, and what are there tales?
myself...ive been a fur since i was 15, and an out of the closet fur since i was 17...for the most part i dont really get much hate, i meet the occational person that comments "ehh....furrys arent for me..i think there kinda weird" but thats it, i lived a pretty hate free life as far as being a fur goes..ive never told my family im a furry mostly cause i never talk to them about ANYTHING cause it just never ends well anyhow so why let them in on it when i know they would just think im gonna need more meds to "fix that too"
i have no fur friends here, but my mate loves me regardless though he is strictly human. he doesnt like nor hate furs.
its nice to be able to be open about myself but some dont get that chance..they have to hide
why is that..what is your story, did you come out of the closet? did it go well or not? are you still in hiding?
if your out, then did they accept you? did they shun you? or did nothing happen at all?
whats your furry life like..how do you live it..open or closed
share with us! we all want to know what being furry means to you!
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i am definitely still in hiding from my family and some close friends. for others my policy is, if they ask, i'll just say yes and leave it at that. why should i care if they know? my family on the other hand are sure to be haters, i already learned it from my brother's reaction after he snooped around my iPhone history and found the forums after stealing my iPhone...
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yeah. i really dont see why alot of people feel it NECISARY to tell there family. they fret and worry and pull there hair out wether they will acept it or not. but in reality its not like coming out gay...when your gay ya gotta come out some time cause you love men...there EVENTUALY gonna have to know, you know...living with them and all there gonna notice you dating men
but furry? i dont find it as necissary to tell them
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i'm still annoyed that my brother thought he had the right to look on my iPhone, and look through my personal stuff and then start calling me furfag..
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woah...now THATS innapropriate right there, ignorant people...*shakes head*
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good thing he didn't find my more locked away stuff...eeesh...
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does your family know your interest in men?
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*shakes head vigorously no*
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so you must be real used to being secrative...but wow...imagine if they found out you like men AND your a furry.
GOD they would loose there F'n minds..
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Its fun being a furry in public. I wear my collar everywhere and I get weird looks and my co-workers think its gaudy or something, I wasnt really paying attention. I came out to my parents about a year ago, and my mom tries to be supportive, but shes having trouble with it, I can tell. Im like Drake too, where if people ask, Ill tell them, but I wont initiate the conversation my self. Heck, I cant remember the last time I was happy before I found the forums and came out. Its all a way to express my inner feelings in a way that Im comfortable with. If people have a problem with that, thats too dang bad.
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on the forums I am me, who else could i ever be?? my furry, gay self X3
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for me, it hasnt been 2 bad. My friend was the 1st furry, i saw what it was like, liked it so now ima fur. Family, i won't talk 2 about this unless they ask (doubt they ever will, but if i feel like i should tell them i will) My state is pretty alright with furs, most of my other non-fur friends don't particularly mind that im 1, though at 1st they did think it was weird. Though in my state..... kind of hard 2 tell who is a fur and who isnt...... mostly bc the style in South Cali right now is with wearing fake raccoon looking tails.....
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I've just recently admitted to myself that I'm a furry after looking back on the evidence in my life and realizing that I was always pretty much a furry ever since I was in elementary school. Now I just am kinda a lone ranger seeking out company on my journey through this crazy existence that I now live. And I'm also a 23 year old female pagan wiccan living with her human boyfriend who's pretty clueless about my true persona, along with my family who are Catholic. I can only imagine the headache I'd be getting if people found out about me...but I guess there is no harm in sticking to the shadows and keeping quiet, at least it's safe. People scare me more than any preditor. I wonder though how long I can remain hidden at the rate I'm going. :?
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I've just recently admitted to myself that I'm a furry after looking back on the evidence in my life and realizing that I was always pretty much a furry ever since I was in elementary school. Now I just am kinda a lone ranger seeking out company on my journey through this crazy existence that I now live. And I'm also a 23 year old female pagan wiccan living with her human boyfriend who's pretty clueless about my true persona, along with my family who are Catholic. I can only imagine the headache I'd be getting if people found out about me...but I guess there is no harm in sticking to the shadows and keeping quiet, at least it's safe. People scare me more than any preditor. I wonder though how long I can remain hidden at the rate I'm going. :?
well honestly, family and strangers and such i never thought a issue, but best friends and mates..those are the ones i alwase try to be sure they know. cause im used to hiding myself, but its those few people i SHOULD feel safe and open with.
i personaly think its unhealthy to keep such a large part of who you are a tottaly secret
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When I first started drawing furry stuff I'd show it to my parents, they thought it was pretty cool, mostly proud that I was practicing my artistic skills. Neither of them really 'got' it, but they were at least cool with it. My dad didn't have anything to say on it, which was a mixed blessing.
Last year, Rainfurrest's charity happened to be the wildlife rescue my mom and sister volunteer at. That was pretty good props for furry. ^_^
My dad saw one of those horrendous shows that bashes furry, I don't know if it was CSI or one of the many others. He was freaking out about it for awhile, but he didn't say anything to me, it was just an aside "those people". Just like when he told me the story about the gay guy hitting on him in college, and I reassured him none of my gay friends were going to push themselves on me unwelcome - his response was "Ok, well, I don't know what *their* morals are, but you should be careful." :S
Other people I'm completely open with, and all my friends are pretty much non-participatory furries - one used to go to conventions but has been out of the loop for a long time, and my mate (who joined tff after I did) is into it and goes to RF with me, but doesn't otherwise participate in the community.
I'm not afraid to share artwork or the fact I'm going to Rainfurrest, but I don't like to really discuss it with my parents because my dad always assumes the worst. :(
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yeah..parents are pretty quick to just assume there child is weird, and not really look past the fact that "its different"
thats why i never told my family..my mother had me medicated since i was three, sort of an obsession of hers..alwase thrilled to find things wrong with me behavioraly so she could rush to my therapist and tell them ALL about it so
she could suggest that i get put on more meds or a higher dosing..she was FURIOUS when i turned 18 and told her to shove her pills down her own damn throat. so then she switched from meds to vitamins, and those she could give to EVERYONE in the family
omg..we would sit down for dinner and on our plates would be like...8 or more vitamins for each of us..we all hated it. mental woman
but yeah..nobody likes to stand out to there parents, not alot of them really comphrehend what it means..and just think its some strange phase there kids going through
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well honestly, family and strangers and such i never thought a issue, but best friends and mates..those are the ones i alwase try to be sure they know. cause im used to hiding myself, but its those few people i SHOULD feel safe and open with.
i personaly think its unhealthy to keep such a large part of who you are a tottaly secret
I know it's unhealthy, but it would be even more unhealthy and troublesome if people were to start trolling me more than the usual... Plus I'm happy with the relationships I have now... Close but detached enough to give everybody the freedom and space they so vigorously try to defend. At least I know it works for me enough so I can be with people. I never felt safe, even with family and friends. Been used, bitten, burned, and rejected too many times to trust peoples good intentions, whatever they maybe. And I know the moment I open my mouth, especially with my situation, I might as well throw myself into the fire from the pan. Plus I dislike unnecessary confrontations, cuz I lack the energy to care. It's better to have something rather then nothing, even if the something is eqivalent to nothing, at least it's still something. Here I'm free to be a furry cuz I'm in a forum full of them...but outside...alone...not yet. Don't have the luxury for that piece of pie, presently. Maybe down the line when I have more money to support myself, and have settled down, then that will be a good enough time for me to open up. Like the wolf in sheeps clothing, your cool so long as nobody can see you, but the moment you reveal yourself as something other than a sheep, you'll get wacked by the shepard and none of the sheep will come near you. So I'll act like a strange ape for alittle while longer it could be a lot worse.
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well honestly, family and strangers and such i never thought a issue, but best friends and mates..those are the ones i alwase try to be sure they know. cause im used to hiding myself, but its those few people i SHOULD feel safe and open with.
i personaly think its unhealthy to keep such a large part of who you are a tottaly secret
I know it's unhealthy, but it would be even more unhealthy and troublesome if people were to start trolling me more than the usual... Plus I'm happy with the relationships I have now... Close but detached enough to give everybody the freedom and space they so vigorously try to defend. At least I know it works for me enough so I can be with people. I never felt safe, even with family and friends. Been used, bitten, burned, and rejected too many times to trust peoples good intentions, whatever they maybe. And I know the moment I open my mouth, especially with my situation, I might as well throw myself into the fire from the pan. Plus I dislike unnecessary confrontations, cuz I lack the energy to care. It's better to have something rather then nothing, even if the something is eqivalent to nothing, at least it's still something. Here I'm free to be a furry cuz I'm in a forum full of them...but outside...alone...not yet. Don't have the luxury for that piece of pie, presently. Maybe down the line when I have more money to support myself, and have settled down, then that will be a good enough time for me to open up. Like the wolf in sheeps clothing, your cool so long as nobody can see you, but the moment you reveal yourself as something other than a sheep, you'll get wacked by the shepard and none of the sheep will come near you. So I'll act like a strange ape for alittle while longer it could be a lot worse.
i can tottaly agree with you on the being used to rejection abuse and betrayal. if it works for you though, keep doing it. everyone functions differently, so you gotta do what works best for you
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I involuntarily came out a little while ago and there have been some people that bully me because of it, wheather they actually dislike me or if they're simply afraid of being left out, I don't know, I have one or two friends that are still cool, they've stayed by me, but the majority have either completely ignored me or have begun to bully me.
My parents are fine with it, they were actually very proud of me for finding a creative outlet and doing something constructive with my time.
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i can tottaly agree with you on the being used to rejection abuse and betrayal. if it works for you though, keep doing it. everyone functions differently, so you gotta do what works best for you
Thank you for understanding, you're right that it's not good to keep things from your close friends, but I just strangely do it to protect both parties from unnecessary pain. I wish though things were easier and sane, so people wouldn't have to hide things to protect that which they hold dear to them.
But at least I've found this forum... I'd still be screaming trapped in a little box somewhere, without anything to relate to. :) It's good to gather with you guys, cuz your good people, even though the world might not be open to furries. But I guess that's the main reason for having a forum in the first place, so we the people can gather and talk like civilized folk and be good friends who help each other out.
And Kaprika, just to let you know, your totally awesome! :3
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haha, aww. well thankyou!
not sure for what reasons, but thanks
and yes. small fur societies online have really helped me fufill my furry needs. ive had to downsize my furry lifestyle when iw as living with my parents..but now im on my own and can be more open and free, but that still wanst enough for me
with the forums. i can really feel like a fur again, talking about fur stuff, acting furry and other stuff like that.
its why i think i could now realisticaly realize my dream to own a fursut and actualy walk around in public wearing it
^^
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I involuntarily came out a little while ago and there have been some people that bully me because of it, wheather they actually dislike me or if they're simply afraid of being left out, I don't know, I have one or two friends that are still cool, they've stayed by me, but the majority have either completely ignored me or have begun to bully me.
My parents are fine with it, they were actually very proud of me for finding a creative outlet and doing something constructive with my time.
That's good that your parents are ok with it, at least you can go home where it's safe from the a-hole flammer patrol. I can only hope that fate repays those ruffians with the same exact treatment, if only worse could be done, I'd turn them into toads. :huggles: At least you've got friends here to talk to and when your out of the house traveling, you can try finding some of us at meet ups and conventions. :) Wouldn't that be an adventure?
haha, aww. well thankyou!
not sure for what reasons, but thanks
and yes. small fur societies online have really helped me fufill my furry needs. ive had to downsize my furry lifestyle when iw as living with my parents..but now im on my own and can be more open and free, but that still wanst enough for me
with the forums. i can really feel like a fur again, talking about fur stuff, acting furry and other stuff like that.
its why i think i could now realisticaly realize my dream to own a fursut and actualy walk around in public wearing it
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^_^ I know what you mean, I now have glamour attacks just by thinking about walking around central park in my own dragon costume, the feeling seems to awesome to describe. I never even use to think about doing such things before I came to this forum, now I can barely wait till I can fly on my own on wings I built. I even drew up blue prints for it, and I'm now in the process of gathering materials to start building my own suit. Just wish I can be done with it soon so I can show everybody myself as me. But it sadly takes a lot of money to make a good accurate suit that won't block your vision or get uncomfortably warm.
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I never really came out, but anyone who's ever heard of a furry could tell by the fact that I was always drawing anthros. Sadly this has turned out bad for me :/
I thought it was cool at first; someone noticed my art and then started to talk to me. I was trying to go the school year without making friends since every time I did before they started awesome and ended horribly, but I figured he would be cool since he was a furry, an anime nerd, and he seemed pretty tolerant.
Then as he got comfortable talking to me he revealed himself to be immature and racist and he won't leave me alone now because he is so excited about having a furry as a friend. I found a few more friends here but they turned out to be easily turned immature and racist as well.
But very few people here even know what a furry is.
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yeah, i run into that problem...alot of people see furry as a fandom...like an anime nerd or something.
but no, its not just being a fan..its like your orientation..its who you ARE, what you are inside.
thats a true fur.
and when i try to tell them that they just think im mental or something
:/
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it's who i am inside but i don't want it to like consume my life if y'all know what i mean
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I consider myself quite lucky in this regard, even though I live "in the closet" as the case my be. No one apart from my former mate knows I'm a furry, and she was wonderfully cool with it. Even play along most of the time, purring, nuzzling after intimacy, things like that. I don't feel the need to tell anyone that I'm a furry, but I wouldn't lie if asked. If one of my friends did, and then started being a jerk, then so much for that friendship. I got betrayed by a friend once before, and I haven't confided anything important in any of my friends since. Nice, friendly, and compassionate though I am, I have serious trust issues.
And aside from that, having this forum has completely satisfied my needs to communicate with other furries. Now about that fursuit... :P
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i KNOW!
i tottaly am gonna fursuit the FIRST chance i get
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id get it, then set the ENTIRE day aside for wandering california MD in fursuit to show it off to teh peoplz!
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i don't has teh money for suiting X3
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I consider myself quite lucky in this regard, even though I live "in the closet" as the case my be. No one apart from my former mate knows I'm a furry, and she was wonderfully cool with it. Even play along most of the time, purring, nuzzling after intimacy, things like that. I don't feel the need to tell anyone that I'm a furry, but I wouldn't lie if asked. If one of my friends did, and then started being a jerk, then so much for that friendship. I got betrayed by a friend once before, and I haven't confided anything important in any of my friends since. Nice, friendly, and compassionate though I am, I have serious trust issues.
^ This. ^
Aside from the trust issues. Lol. I just see no reason to "come out" and tell everyone that I'm a furry because it doesn't seem necessary. The exception would be a particularly close relationship with a girl (or guy; I'm certainly bi-curious, but still unsure if I might be bi-romantic or bisexual) that I might want to marry at some point. I'd rather not "give up" being a furry (don't know if that's technically possible, depending on your definition of furry) if I can help it, so I'd rather find someone who's, at worst, cool with it or, at best, a furry themselves.
I'm of the opinion that this sort of thing should be your own business. If someone asks, I won't lie about it, but I'm not just going to go shouting it from the rooftops. Haha.
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im thinking of going here to get a furry hoodie so that i may strut mah furry pride!
http://www.calgarycosplay.com/pedobear.php
:3
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being the only fur i know can be hard...i kinda wish my mate was a fur, but alas human he remains..though im happy he accepts me for being a fur.
:/
it seems like im the only furry in MD
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i know furs IRL but i'm too shy to do anything with them
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I was a closet fur, kind of until I came out of the closet on national TV about a week ago. most of my family knew anyway but they didn't really care about it to be honest, my uncle and his boyfriend thought it was pretty cool too, but yeah, nobody at my school or college knew.
I've been involved in the fandom since I was 13, first joining furcadia and stuffs, found out about it through Newgrounds. but yeah so there's me being cool and furry. then I grew up and became a big part of me, there's not a day gone by whem I am not speaking to a fur or attending a meet or writing a story or something that involves furries.
But yeah that TV show, OMG with peaches, dunno if you heard about it but yeah I was on that and stuf being furry and awesome, now everyone knows and loads of people are like 'awesome man. You should be a t-rex or something'
but yeah, that's my story
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I was a closet fur, kind of until I came out of the closet on national TV about a week ago. most of my family knew anyway but they didn't really care about it to be honest, my uncle and his boyfriend thought it was pretty cool too, but yeah, nobody at my school or college knew.
I've been involved in the fandom since I was 13, first joining furcadia and stuffs, found out about it through Newgrounds. but yeah so there's me being cool and furry. then I grew up and became a big part of me, there's not a day gone by whem I am not speaking to a fur or attending a meet or writing a story or something that involves furries.
But yeah that TV show, OMG with peaches, dunno if you heard about it but yeah I was on that and stuf being furry and awesome, now everyone knows and loads of people are like 'awesome man. You should be a t-rex or something'
but yeah, that's my story
i keep hearing about this "OMG with peaches" what the heck IS it?
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I was a closet fur, kind of until I came out of the closet on national TV about a week ago. most of my family knew anyway but they didn't really care about it to be honest, my uncle and his boyfriend thought it was pretty cool too, but yeah, nobody at my school or college knew.
I've been involved in the fandom since I was 13, first joining furcadia and stuffs, found out about it through Newgrounds. but yeah so there's me being cool and furry. then I grew up and became a big part of me, there's not a day gone by whem I am not speaking to a fur or attending a meet or writing a story or something that involves furries.
But yeah that TV show, OMG with peaches, dunno if you heard about it but yeah I was on that and stuf being furry and awesome, now everyone knows and loads of people are like 'awesome man. You should be a t-rex or something'
but yeah, that's my story
National TV?
Is there somewhere I can watch this?
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Yup. Youtube. there's a thread about it somewhere let me find it....
http://www.thefurryforum.com/forums/index.php?topic=15268.0
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Ah, that's really cool!
Anytime we need someone to represent the fandom, we'll choose a brit!
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heheh, yeah just not me, I was the one who didn't say anything the whole thing :P (well I did, but It was edited out D:) anyways yeah being a furry is awesome, I dunno why so any people treat it like a cult, the way I see it, if you ake a big deal out of it, then people will react accordingly but if you don't care if people know about it and stuff, people are generally going to be ore accepting,
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Personally for me being a furry isn't necessarily yelling at the top of my lungs "I'm a furry everyone!". Sure it's changed my life and helped me find out who I am on the inside, but I personally don't treat it as some big deal or anything, it's just I am who I am. However, that being said, no one I know except the people on this forum know that I am a furry. I am quite secretive about it just because I don't think my parents at this point would try to understand or care. Plus becoming a part of the FA has helped me to see that not everyone in the world is mean.
Just thought that I'd share that.
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Well being furry to me is like seeing the world through happier eyes because I know who I am and where I belong. I feel more intact with myself, like on a spiritual level. I also feel as though I am much closer to understanding others. I guess to sum it up, I feel more zen. I really love being furry, I even wrote a research paper on the effects and history of anthromorphic and zoomorphic personalities!
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No one knows Im a furry irl. And I dont think I'd ever tell my family.
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Most of my friends know and although most people dont notice it says it on my facebook... but my family probably doesnt know
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Most of my friends know and although most people dont notice it says it on my facebook... but my family probably doesnt know
that paper you said you were gonna write on furries...id love to see how that came out
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My teacher thought it was interesting but then my flashdrive got stolen along with my paper :'(
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D:
it musta been a REALLY awesome paper
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I dont know, im not super at righting papers, like right now im supposed to be writing about small business management (my senior project) and im just doing horrible...
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well having a paper written would be better than that CSI crap i keep hearing people talk about. I was talking with some old friends and the subject came up out of the blue only one of em knows that i am a furry but any way i think most of em know now because i spent the time explain to them at least to me what a furry is along with general wikifur definition
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There was a study done about us... if theres enough interest ill dig it out and post it up in its own special thread
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Well, I'm hiding it from my family, and I especially don't want my step-brother to know as he's an avid 4chan goer and a big internet troll, and he would probably lose all respect for me and probably make fun of me and whatnot. Not so much worried if my parents find out compared to my step-brother, but I'm not sure how they would take it either. I don't care if anyone else besides the people in my family know I'm a furry, though; two of my friends know that I am one, one of them being a furry himself and the other doesn't even know what a furry is.
I keep it to myself and don't reveal anything about it unless someone asks.
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I've only just become a Furry, and I have a feeling that it should be kept secret from those who I'm closest to. Most of them might be understanding, or at least accepting. But something tells me that news of my expanded personality would cause some problems. We'll see how things turn out with my life before complicating it further by possibly worrying some family and friends.
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i discovered recently, my friends don't care.
there are 2 though that tease me for it, but they're just kidding (they lurk on 4chan).
we all have a good time B), my parents and bro only care about how i draw my characters eg: "You drew the legs too short"
so yeah, the only thing i worry about is them seeing my horrible drawings. (drawings i did when i was a kid and not a teen)
maybe i have it TOO easy...
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My furry life pretty much consists of going online and looking at content that involves animal characters, then going offline and hanging out with locals.
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Most people don't notice the subtle signs that I'm a furry such as wearing a lanyard for a tail at school, defending furries and talking about anthro animals. Hell, I even draw them when I'm bored enough in school. But when someone notices and asks, I tell them straight up that I'm a furry, and instantly tell them I'm not into the yiff. And they don't really care. Some people try and pull the lanyard off its clip on my belt loop, and those are the people I worry about. So I try and keep it secret from my family as well, cause the first thing they will see on wikipedia is "Yiff" and go nuts about it. So yep, as the txt under my pic says; I'm a Secret Furry, helping enforce the good reputation of Furries.
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There was a study done about us... if theres enough interest ill dig it out and post it up in its own special thread
Post it!
I'm quite secretive about being a furry. Just like with anything else. I don't tell anyone about it unless they ask, so no one irl knows I'm a furry. And even if I told, I don't think anyone would really care.
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Im not all that much of a fur as I used to be, guess Im just growing up or something. But I love animals, and being a furry is kinda fun. It kinda gives me my own style
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