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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: icy wolf on March 08, 2011, 07:17:53 PM
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this has beeing going on for a wall now. to day when my dad when to pick up my mom at work, when she got home she was pissed off because my dad didn't vacuum and he had lit some insets ( have no high why he dose that i told him not to because for some resin it gives me some sort of a high feeling). so my mom started to yell at him for those too things. then then start to yell at me. its feels like there going to get a devorise, is there something wrong with feeling like they should ? maybe they would be happier if they did. some of the stuff they have said to me sounds like that they would be happy if i moved out, they have said i would be able to do more if i didn't have a pup to support ( or said it kid). my dad once told me that i was nothing but an expense to him a big expense ( my serves provide messed up my cell phone bill and it came up to 600$ cnd) and my mom she said she would have had an apportion if she knew i was going to be like this ( cant member what the fight was about ) any way those to thing happened 6 yrs a go but the scar will never heal. ( the furs here are the first people ive told that to ). they ask me a lot of question a about my social life and i get uncorrectable when they do. i feel like it would be best if i moved out ASAP. they bug me to find a girl and get married so i can move out. this makes me depressed i usually feel like this 3 to four times a week.
there a quote from metallica that i would like to use that might help to describe how i feel
metallic one " i can not live i can not die darkness is impression me all i feel is absolute horror "
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I think its a good idea to find a roomate or 2 and get an apartment. Being around your parents seems toxic to you right now.
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yeah but they would question it and i don't have a job
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Just tell them "A man has got to do what a man's got to do...." and then tell them that they're scaring the women away with their old people ways and you need your own place to learn responsibility so to get women. LOL.... Well maybe not exsactly that way but round about in a more polite manner so long as you are straight forward with what you want. XP Give them what they ask so they'll have to either lay off, or if they fall for it you'll get to move out worse comes to worse.
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true, but they calmed down 6 hours la8er . when they fight they yell at me most of the time
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Uhhh, a parent who tells their son that his son is only a big waste of money then I would move out ASAP. Really... start looking for a job, start making plans and searching for a roommate to share the apartment and don't tell your parents too soon.
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I can say that I understand a bit what you're going through, since I grew up with my parents fighting all the time. Of course every family is different, and every person reacts differently to these circumstances. The thing that was really important to me is when I realized that what was going on with my family at that time was not my fault. I have met a lot of people who had problems like that.. To me, a good divorce is much better than a bad marriage. As for your personal matters- they are your own, and I'd try to keep them that way..
And don't get down when people say you're just a big expense, because that's not true. Try to think of yourself as a worthy individual and a valuable investment rather than a useless expense. I think there should always be at least one (but there are usually more) person that believes in you- start with yourself. ;)
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thanks....that time they really got to me . i was so depressed there.