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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: Rhett (Twister) on February 22, 2011, 04:02:51 AM
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Alright, so heres the story. a couple of days ago my boyfriend and i were on the couch watching The Simpsons (our favorite show) when he started petting my head. I curled up into him and started purring. He asked me what i was doing because he didn't know that i was furry. So i explained what i was doing and told him about being furry, and now he won't even look at me. I've tried to talk to him, but he just ignores me like i'm not even there. I feel like a freak of nature. can somebody please give me advice? I've run out of options.
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I think he may just be overreacting to this new information. Hes comfortable with you enough to where he can pet you. Its really nothing to get upset over. If anything, leave him a note where he has to read it, like tape it on the door and the wall so when he opens it, it comes off the wall. Just explain that its nothing and you want to talk. *thumbs up*
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okay, I'll try that tomorrow, thank you :)
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Screw him. He's not worth your time if he won't accept you for who you are. (Well, after the note... :])
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thanks, shadow, it's just that we've been dating for 9 months now :(
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Give him some time to warm up to it, and show that you're still the same person you always have been.
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Ease him into it, slowly reveal your furry self to him and make sure ta ask him if he feels uncomfortable. If so, tell him that it isnt anything that you want to change and that maybe you should both move on.
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Ease him into it, slowly reveal your furry self to him and make sure ta ask him if he feels uncomfortable. If so, tell him that it isnt anything that you want to change and that maybe you should both move on.
well, i sort of ruined that plan that day :/
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I was once dating a girl who was against my Pansexuality. She still harasses me about it. I told her about it because I thought I trusted her but shes really stubborn so I just ignore her.
If he doesn't accept you he's not worth your time. Trust your inner being and see what you find right and strive for it.
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Sorry for going off topic, but what is Pansexuality? Im afraid of googling it...
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it's sort of like bisexuality, but not really...
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elaborate please?
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from wikipedia: "The term pansexual generally is used for a person who does not classify their sexuality with a person's sex, but their gender. They believe that there is a set difference between sex and gender - gender being the socially constructed condition of being male or female, and sex being the biological condition of male or female.
People who are pansexual may be attracted to various different forms of romance, and may be aroused by various different acts of sex on a carnal level. Some suggest that pansexuality is more accurately described by its adepts: human- or person-oriented. Despite a person who is pansexual's fluid sexuality, some may have a preference. A person who is pansexual may be attracted to all genders and sexes, but have a preference, (for example) for pre-operative transsexual people, other people who are pansexuals, masculine lesbians, intersexed people, etc."
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Oh. I thought it meant something like what I am. That is being straight, but attracted to anthromorphic character males & females. Is there a name for that?
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I only care about the persons inner being not sex or appearence.
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Oh. I thought it meant something like what I am. That is being straight, but attracted to anthromorphic character males & females. Is there a name for that?
hmm... no clue?
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I beleive it's called a fur fettish. XD
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^^ what he said :3 ^^
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I dont mean to be rude, but people often say that gay guys would rather be girls. Is that true? I just dont want to make a decision based on ignorance like the rest of the world. And if this question us too personal, just say so. And, since you are, a, you know, gay guy (even though gay generally means 'happy') i thought I'd ask.
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Please stay on topic.
If you have a question for someone, ask in a PM.
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Um.... should you be with someone who obviously cares for the image he had of you, not you the person? Yes, this is harsh, but anyone who loves you accepts you as you are. Iti s not like you killed babies for sport, you just happen to like something different. Try reasoning, if he is still unaccepting, then... Hm... Better to be alone! You deserve to be loved for who you are as you are.
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Well, I actually tried what Macid said a couple of days ago and he called me yesterday, he said he wanted to talk, I'm going to his house tomorrow. *Fingers crossed*
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good luck!
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Good Luck Twister just know that if anything happens we care about you. I hope for the best :D
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Well, yesterday we talked it over, and he came to the decision that he was just startled at what I said to him. He said that he'd love me any way I am, that he loves me for me, and that he wanted to be with me. so now we're back together and we're going to take things slowly. thank you all. MWUH <3
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aww yay hooray!
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I am very happy to hear something like that. It's hard to find people who say things like that and actually mean it. If he is what he says he is then you are one lucky man. It's hard to come around people like that.
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Well, nevermind then. I guess you're right zaspher. Yesterday he told everybody that I was a furry and everyone was laughing at me. It was terrible. He said he would keep it a secret but i guess he was just another lying jerk. -curls up in a corner- he laughed like everybody else. nobody is talking to me anymore, they're afraid of me :'(
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*hugs Twister* Im sorry to hear that.
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Twister that's terrible D: he wasn't worth your time
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I know... its just that I trusted him so much. I didn't think he would ever do that sort of thing, you know? :(
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I know. *curls up on Twisters Lap* I know.
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I'm so sorry to hear that. I knew there was something fishy going on. If people are laughing at you they are not worth your time because they fail to see that beautiful person inside you. Your worth more than him people like that are a waste of precious carbon. They're not even worth spitting at. Filthy backstabber!
>:(
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tell me, whats his address? I gotta kill the /b/tard. Oh, if you hear that a kid in a polar bear suit killed a guy.... yeah...
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No!!!! You definitely wont!!! :'(
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alright, fine. just cuz you asked me not too. *hugs Twister*
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-huggs back- thankuu
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I keep thinking at some point I'll get used to the appallingly low levels some people sink to...
I'm so sorry to hear this Twister. I've felt the sting of betrayal as well, though under different circumstances. In middle school, my best friend in elementary school got one of his new friends to pull a prank on me using my greatest fear/phobia. I share this because even though it sucked at the time, I became a much better judge of character, and I think you will be too. :)
*hugs with both arms and wings* Take care, Twister. :)
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Oh wow, that is an impressive story.
Your boyfriend was so lucky and he dumps you for being a furry? He must be the most asshole guy on earth, really.
I'm just out of words right now... :O
I hope you find someone that accepts who you are :)