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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: TheLazyFur on February 04, 2011, 10:24:34 AM
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Ive been thinking about my orientation more than usual and a few days ago i accepted that i was actually bisexual and not haterosexual as i thought before. How do I tell my parents?
P.S. Am i going to hell for being bi?
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The first thing you need to realise, is that you don't have to tell your parents; not yet, at least. I'm 16 and I still have yet to tell my own parents and family about my orientation.
I mean, of course you may need to tell them one day, but only when you want to.
There are lots of ways in which you could tell them, but you should always do what you feel is right. Someone I know simply walked into the room, and told his parents
he had a boyfriend. Another person I used to know just asked if they could go to a LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender) meeting by sending his parents a link by email.
Just do what feels right, when it feels right.
In my belief, you will not go to hell for being bisexual (or gay etc). Many people have many different views, but I believe that as long as you're generally a good, kind person, being bisexual or gay or whatever isn't going to make you go to hell / stop you going to heaven :3
And hey, don't sweat it. I've been thinking I'm gay for around 3 years now, and I still accept the fact that it's possible I could "change." But do I want to change? Do I care if I do? Nope.
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Just like Dessum is saying, orientation is not a big deal even though media and various social circles make it so. It's just a preference, like your favourite colour or music.
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your orientation is really your own. me. im bisexual and have been sinve i was in middleschool and im 21 now.
ive never told them cause i never felt the need to, unless you plan to bring home a significant other thats your same gender..then mabey its something you wanna give them heads up on.
you could even go as far as to let them figure it out themselves...me, i have my facebook status as bi, and its in plain view for her. i honestly dont know if she knows. but if you leave a "paper trail" so to speak they will figure it out..and let THEM decide amongst themselves on how they want to react to it..approaching them directly with it forces them to decide and react THAT second..which often leaves them feeling cornered and helpless, leading to a bad reaction.
as for hell, i cant answer that one for you..i dont believe in it.
but id say listen to the first response you got..that its not a sin to love a same gendered person, why would it be?
they say god makes you as you were meant to be..and if thats so then your meant to be the orientation he made you
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I guess ill just go with dessum's suggestion and tell my parents when it feels right :3
Post Merge: February 08, 2011, 12:30:53 AM
wow um i guess i really wasnt bi it was really just that dang puberty screwing with me :/
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Really now? What's up?
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Puberty was just working its magic and turning my mind about my heterosexuality into soup :/ So i thought i was Bi ^_^
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How can you be so sure? If you don't mind me asking.
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Trust me, IM POSITIVE :P
P.S. I do this alot, Im 13 going through puberty, it happens B)
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o.O I don't think puberty can do that....I mean like..I just dont know but meh, I still think you should wait and see. And tbh, Im not really sure anyone can be 100% sure of their sexuallity at your age but, whatever. As long as you are confident in who you are.^^
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Im just staying heterosexual until i get to an age where i can be 100% sure about my orientation :P
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That makes no sence at all to me but Huzzah for that i guess! :D
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iam bi sexual as well. i tryed to tell my parents that i was bi and my mom freaked. if they don't approve of it don't tell them till you move out and you well off ( thats what iam going to do ) the only other person that should know should be you mate. if you want to, bring up Dr.Kneisy and the kensiy scale, the kensiy scale is a scale used to determine you sexuality it goes from 0-6. 0 being hetro and 6 being homo. you can take test to help you get an idea but you are the only person who truly know where you fall. see what they say after you talk about that or you can let them find out on there own ( ie update yoy FB stats to say your interested in both. i did that now iam w8ing to see if they notice) one person here hasn't told his parents he was bi till recently and hes in his 30's (i think) and he has a pup . his name in the fandom is tatter. he did that through a FB note.
i don't think any one is going to hell for being bi,gay,trans or lesbian. that who you are nothing you can do about it, as it says in the bible god made every one in gods image. so no one is going to hell for any thing.
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i tryed to tell my parents that i was bi and my mom freaked. if they don't approve of it don't tell them till you move out and you well off ( thats what iam going to do )
Out of curiousity... How are you going to wait to tell your parents until you move out, if you've already told them and they've freaked out?
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well they still think iam str8. its hard to look them in the eye and lie. so to prevent them from yelling when iam there ill call them or leave them an email . weight a week or so after i have sent it then call them and see what they say. btw if you w8 to long they might think its "all of the sudden". thats what mine thought ( guess i did a good job at hiding it ).
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im designing a gay pride picture and im needing one more gay/bisexual fur in it. i can alwase make one up but id rather put someone REAL in it. is anyone interested in having there fursona in my picture?
male, female doesnt matter.
i want to show people our pride, so speak up soon. im in the process of drawing it right now
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im designing a gay pride picture and im needing one more gay/bisexual fur in it. i can alwase make one up but id rather put someone REAL in it. is anyone interested in having there fursona in my picture?
male, female doesnt matter.
i want to show people our pride, so speak up soon. im in the process of drawing it right now
Ooh! Pick me! *waves paw frantically*
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im designing a gay pride picture and im needing one more gay/bisexual fur in it. i can alwase make one up but id rather put someone REAL in it. is anyone interested in having there fursona in my picture?
male, female doesnt matter.
i want to show people our pride, so speak up soon. im in the process of drawing it right now
Ooh! Pick me! *waves paw frantically*
if you can give me a fullbody picture of your fursona, absolutely
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fuuuuuuu-!!!
I don't have a fullbody picture. Would just a description work?
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fuuuuuuu-!!!
I don't have a fullbody picture. Would just a description work?
hmmm...*scratches head*
i suppose if it gives me a good enough visual of whta you are.
if not, then ill have to regretfuly turn you down. i cant draw what i cant visualize
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Ok, then. I'll PM you the description.
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if you want you can use mine
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Please stay on topic.
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if you want you can use mine
ill be making many pictures on this subject throughout this month of february. i can use all the furs i can for my art.
ill make a topic for this so as no not deter this topics subject