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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: Redclaw on October 30, 2010, 03:02:32 AM
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(Didn't wanna retype, so you get my MSN chat!)
my gf is bein confusing
like, she used to say she wanted to marry me one day, y'know, if everything went right, and that she would never leave me
but she has a crush on this one guy
but she's not gonna do anything about it
but now, she's sayin that "She's too young to know who she wants to marry"
like, she knows she wants someone like me
but she says she doesnt know if it is me
yet she still wants to stay together
and try n get married one day
and idk what the heck shes tryin to say
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It seems to me like she doesnt know what she wants. She seems willing to keep it going with you tho, so if you want to keep what you got, just keep doing what youre doing. Girls are confusing. Dont try to decode them. :/
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murr... i guess. Its just hard when she's changing things she's said to me
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seems to me that this is the point in the relationship when she doesn't know what she wants/wants to accomplish. Give it some time and make sure that she remains faithful, I think that she will. If she is with you now, then you must be what she wants. She's just making it hard for herself
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Yeah. Thanks Drakefox :3 And I kinda see what she meant now too. She just kinda realized that she has a long time to make the decision of who she wants to marry, and while she hopes its me, she just feels there's no way to be sure until we're walking down an aisle.
I dont like it, but she's my gf and I love her, so I'll do whatever it takes :)
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girls aren't confusing ... *people* are confusing. believe me it doesn't get any easier when a man tried to decode another man. depending on your age i would say that the too young option is a pretty viable thing, especialy if you're in your late-ish teens/early 20s. best thing is to not worry about any of that when you're that age... you have the rest of your life to worry about things like that so spend what little time you have in your fit/able young body not worrying!!! XD
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She just kinda realized that she has a long time to make the decision of who she wants to marry, and while she hopes its me, she just feels there's no way to be sure until we're walking down an aisle.
That's it right there.
People can change, a lot. Over a few months, a year, or five years. Anything can happen, and most of the time it's something you'd never expect. People can grow apart, no matter how much you don't want that to happen. It just sounds like she has realistic expectations. That she hopes your relationship continues on well, but neither she nor you can know exactly what the future holds.
It's nothing to worry about.
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girls aren't confusing ... *people* are confusing. believe me it doesn't get any easier when a man tried to decode another man. depending on your age i would say that the too young option is a pretty viable thing, especialy if you're in your late-ish teens/early 20s. best thing is to not worry about any of that when you're that age... you have the rest of your life to worry about things like that so spend what little time you have in your fit/able young body not worrying!!! XD
1. well, i wudnt know how confusing a m/m relationship is, but i'll take yer word for it! :D
2. if by fit/able, you mean sexually fit and able (since thats how it sounded), it's not really an issue, since we're not havin sex till we get married. i respect that rule, but its a pain wen it seems literally EVERYONE around you is... ah well...
and thx zeph, that helped :D
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in my opinion no sex before marriage is a first class steaming load of...well we won't say that word....would you buy a new car before testing it out?
but if that's how she feels then you should respect her feelings...
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never said i didnt respect that rule. i even said i do. its just kind of annoying to see ppl younger than me doin it, and know its years off for me
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Alright best of luck to you redclaw:)
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thx Drake! We're already havin good luck :D (not that way :p)
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Sex is the last thing a relationship should be about, there isn't anything wrong with waiting, and it only makes it that much better
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again, i never said it was all i wanted. i would never go out with someone based on looks/sex appeal. i have to like a person before i'll be theirs. It's just, idk... i really wanna wait, cuz i do believe itll be worth it, but its so far off, and i have those days... anywho, just sayin i totally understand what you mean sain.
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I know what you mean about those some days :P, but the best things in life, are what you wait for
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Lets not turn this into a debate on the ethics of sex and when you do it. Lets keep this on the original topic IE the problems with his girlfriend
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grr... *hates waiting*
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She just kinda realized that she has a long time to make the decision of who she wants to marry, and while she hopes its me, she just feels there's no way to be sure until we're walking down an aisle.
That's it right there.
People can change, a lot. Over a few months, a year, or five years. Anything can happen, and most of the time it's something you'd never expect. People can grow apart, no matter how much you don't want that to happen. It just sounds like she has realistic expectations. That she hopes your relationship continues on well, but neither she nor you can know exactly what the future holds.
It's nothing to worry about.
Another great answer from the wise WZ. :'3
Also,
sometimes you just gotta wait for sex, no matter how impatient one may be.
Each relationship is different.
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I know... and I'm coming to grips with it. It was just kinda annoying for a bit there. We're better now :D
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Hey, guess what happened. Now she's seriously considering leaving me for him. We've been together for a year and a half, and she's known him two months! She told me this wouldn't happen, but I saw it coming... God I feel so stupid... There's still a chance, but it looks pretty over from my viewpoint... Anything? Anyone? Please. Just cheer me up and stop my tears...
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I can't stand people like that, it may not be what you want to hear, but it's what you should here
How can you truly care about some one else if you have mixed feelings? In my opinion, if they are thinking about leaving, dont give them a choice, don't let them hang on the fence, it may only hurt you.
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Makes me think of the quote: "Don't leave the one you love for the one you like, because the one you like will leave you for the one they love."
Maybe you should tell her that.
I know that there's a guy from high school that I still like, but if he told me he liked me now, he'd be SOL because I would never leave the one I love (Shinzuu) for the one I like. It's a severely stupid move for her since it will hurt you and most likely end up hurting her because the guy will probably leave her if she does decide to date him.
IF she does leave you, don't blame yourself AT ALL. As far as I can see, you haven't done anything to bring this on and it's all on her. I'm sorry but the girl is an idiot if she goes through with it.
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Well, she didnt return my calls last night, i called her this morning, and asked if she was leaving, she said "I probably should", and she'd tell me what happened later today... great...
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Don't wait for the rain, just leave it isn't right for you to go through this
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Whatever happens Just remember that you have all us here on TFF, we'll help you through it, we're all just one big family and at the end of the day family stick together through thick and thin. But lets just hope that the end results are good, as You dont seem to of done anything wrong at all, Shes just being stupid and unfortunatly as the saying goes ''If you love somebody...Let Them Go'' this may be one of those cases, but if she has any sense what so ever she wont leave.
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nope. She left today. She says its not for the other guy, but i know they'll start dating. Shes so blind as to how he manipulated her though! He said the last thing on his mind was getting in between us, but then he told her he loved her and kissed her! ugh... so much hapened. i warned her he was bad news. she ignored me.
She still wants to be friends, and we are. Sadly, i'm still a lovesick puppy and hope she realizes her mistake and comes back. Im a vulpix, i know how curiosity can be. I only hope she sees her mistake before I go too far over the edge of insanity.
In the meantime, i have another problem. I want to date, but I'm scared of comparing my new gf (whoever she may be) to Bailey all the time, and thats not fair to her... But besides this, Bailey never wronged me.. ever... I'm really confused, torn, upside down, and upset. Thanks in advance to anyone who takes the time to read this...
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Bailey did wrong you. She left what was good for what was uncertain. She spurned your feelings for her own. Don't compare future relationships to your old one. Each one is different
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I gotta go with Drake. If leaving you for a worse guy isnt wronging you, I dont know what is
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Its just, she never did me wrong except for this, and I dont blame her for being curious about other options. She also doesnt think its the best time for us to go out, since she's in college and i'm not... idk. Its just... I dont blame her. And I know i'm stupid for doing so, but still... I loved her for a year and a half and i still do. I have to cling to the hope that she'll realize her wrong decision.
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First, you have to let her go
She did do wrong, but you don't have to hate her (not saying you do), you never stop loving the ones you love, you just love them in a diffrent way.
Move on, befroe youstart dating again
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Then I guess I wont be dating for a heck of a long time...