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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: Crevan Fox on August 10, 2010, 06:25:42 PM
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Ok here is my story, A few day's ago i got dumped for being a BI but why, why did she think they are sick and then she called me a, Get this, a FurFag. I just can't get over the fact that she dumped me for that reason, Why :'(
Post Merge: August 10, 2010, 05:52:48 PM
To add I am an emotionally fragile 14 year old who got dumped for being a bi, Parents and school totally SUCK and in about a week i will get totally ripped on by people for being a fur and my moron of a EX will tell them all i am a BI and they have attacked me before and with my leg i can't fight back, So yea :(
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I understand where your ex is comming from; she'd have to worry about competition from EVERYONE, not just other girls, and I don't even think I could handle that... But she didn't have to be such a sonofabiscuit calling you those names. But don't call her a moron for her not wanting to stay with you. It's her choice.
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I guess but i don't feel any better
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Well, this may not help much, but look at this way: if she can't even understand that being bisexual isn't a choice and that it isn't sick or anything else she said, she's probably narrow-minded and stubborn so you would have run into issues eventually. It's better that an event like this happens sooner rather than later, when it'll be far more damaging.
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*sympathetic hug*
i don't even get why she would be annoyed....
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well i guess I know what they mean... I've told my girl that I was bi... but it's like wtf honestly if you are scared of them cheating then why are you with them?
and it sucks about you getting ragged on, bu why did she had to be a (not nice word) and call you a fur fag?!?!
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you can't blame someone for not being comfortable with something, and i think it's very common to not want to be with someone because they're bisexual. however... that's not what this is about. once someone starts calling you names in a malicious way then it's perhaps gone a bit past discomfort. and as for school problems, people will get over the fact that you;re bisexual fairly quickly (if they even care at all), people probably won't know what on earth a furry is (again, nor care), and as for the fighting if they're gonna pick on someone who can't fight back then you;re the better man. i can't offer any advice on the issue (i have a pretty poor record of school-yard fights), plus i'm a pacifist so i'm gonna offer advice for me as an individual, not you. i'm sorry i can't be of any more help;
if it makes you feel any better i once had a relationship with someone of the opposite gender (while i still identified as bisexual. i still am really but do not want any kind of relationship with females right now), and after i think 6 or 7 weeks, i somehow discovered that she didn't believe that bisexuals even existed, that we were all either gay, straight or just confused. i felt very patronised by that and so i left her.
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Well thank's all, made me feel much better
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dude this is sad, she seems like a huge shiz head
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You're right bro
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HUG MER BR-no XP
but ya she sounds like a bish head
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Lol, She is
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spoiled brat kind or attention hogger kind?
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*hugs Crevan* If she gave you a bunch of fuss about just being who you are, she probably wasn't worth you time anyway... If she REALLY liked you, she wouldn't have left you... :/
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When we first met she asked ME out, weird or what *Hug's Luna*. I would have to say she is the attention seeker kind Dat.
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Attention seeker huh... Definetly not worth your time...
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Yes, and on top of that she HATES furrys
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*growls* people! They irk me! There's nothing wrong with furries... And why should ANYONE believe a stereo type i mean, COME ON!!!
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Exactly, but she thinks all furs are sex crazed and really dont care about anything else
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I'm assuming she immediately stacked you under said stereotype when you told her didn't she... :/ That's my problem with the general public, they see one, and think they've seen them all...
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Yes she did, A few seconds later i also told her i was BI. That sent her over the edge, She said 'Have fun in you're little world, i shall be getting on with my life'
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Yep, definitely not worth your time... A good girlfriend/boyfriend wouldn't really care... Best advice I can give is... Don't take anyone at face value, watch them a little bit before you go ask them out... Window shop if you will...
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Yep, definitely not worth your time... A good girlfriend/boyfriend wouldn't really care
amen to that sista!
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what IS the problem with anti-BI's!?!?!?
I don't see anything rong wit it D:<
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what IS the problem with anti-BI's!?!?!?
I don't see anything rong wit it D:<
agreed Dat... I don't see anything wrong with much anything as far as sexuality is concerned... Unless you're really perverted... (I'll probably get in trouble for my language choice, but it's true...)
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well some people just see it as wrong. no point in arguing with it cause there's no way you're gonna be able to change their opinion. it's like most people on here i would imagine don't see a problem with eating meat... but i personally do. anything you could say to change that? hell no! B) it goes both ways too... cause she can hardily say anything to you to make you think that bisexuality is wrong... and there's nothing i could say to you to make you never eat meat again.
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well some people just see it as wrong. no point in arguing with it cause there's no way you're gonna be able to change their opinion. it's like most people on here i would imagine don't see a problem with eating meat... but i personally do. anything you could say to change that? hell no! B) it goes both ways too... cause she can hardily say anything to you to make you think that bisexuality is wrong... and there's nothing i could say to you to make you never eat meat again.
EXACTLY, I think someone has already said this but well she think's Bi's are greedy and that they just can't be asked to choose, and she thinks being furry is exactly like being Goth EXACTLY, she see's no difference
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well some people just see it as wrong. no point in arguing with it cause there's no way you're gonna be able to change their opinion. it's like most people on here i would imagine don't see a problem with eating meat... but i personally do. anything you could say to change that? hell no! B) it goes both ways too... cause she can hardily say anything to you to make you think that bisexuality is wrong... and there's nothing i could say to you to make you never eat meat again.
EXACTLY, I think someone has already said this but well she think's Bi's are greedy and that they just can't be asked to choose, and she thinks being furry is exactly like being Goth EXACTLY, she see's no difference
well if that's the case she's clearly not worth the time...
and lol to that bisexuals being greedy thing! i'm sorry if i offend you but i find people's homophobia (or similar) hilarious. consider this good training for the future, but you'll find that in real life, not many people're gonna care about you being bisexual. you'll tell people and it'll be a forgotten subject after about a minute or so.
however i'm gonna have to go a bit negative here... if you won't be able to take any negativity that may come from people being homophobic, then don't tell anyone. it's not a necessity that people know, but i'm afraid to say it probably will make life a little harder. i've never felt freer once i told everyone i knew that i was gay. all my homophobic jokes were all of a sudden so much funnier (if i don't say so myself). plus most of the time you're probably just confirming what some people already knew/thought.
sorry if that was a bit unfocused... i'm really tired. i haven't had a good night's sleep in about 2 weeks
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No that was fune and yes i understand, Seem's simple
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Another prob, seriously depressed right nao due to the school being soon
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:'( (two words)
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Paranoid: Moderate
Schizoid: High
Schizotypal: Very High
Antisocial: High
Borderline: Very High
Histrionic: High
Narcissistic: High
Avoidant: Very High
Dependent: High
Obsessive-Compulsive: High
LOOK AT MY RESULT'S, THEY ARE BAD
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:'(
each disorder conflicts with the other ones, so it isn't that bad
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So i have every disorder possible
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I'll bet some of you disorders will cancel eachother out.... It's impossible to have EVERY mental disorder ever diagnosed...
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I have ADHD, some kind of hyper one and a few others
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technically all of these 'disorders' fit into a spectrum, and every doctor you will speak to will diagnose you completely differently. i would feel confident in saying that some doctors would examine you and not diagnose you with ADHD. these disorders can be overcome and lived with.
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This is getting off topic
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Please Stay on Topic
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As I just said ^^
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My Kitty knew I was bi long before we started going out...
And she's clearly not worried about cheating. We actually openly discuss cute boys all the time :3
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I envy that
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Kitty is just amazing.
But don't worry, you'll find someone like her some day, be they male or female. Don't let deluded people change who you are.
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Oh i did, He (Yes he) Is very special to me
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Guy's all of a sudden i feel lonely and depressed :'( :(
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:( Awww... Your not alone... No, really you not... I'm watching you!
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Thank's, i dont know what or why but i just feel so lonely
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You hash my sympathy...
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Thank-you Luna *Hug's*
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I know the feeling, I've had this happen to me before. If you ever wanna just talk, feel free to PM me.
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Thank-you Phynix, i might take you up on that
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im here for u man ;)
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Thank-you everyone, I have felt much better after meeting my current mate Leo
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This sucks, but if she left you for something this stupid she's probably a bigot anyway and not worth it.
Some people I am sure just try to make themselves hate it too, they probably just overreact and then go convince themselves that you're sick and disgusting or that you might cheat on them with anyone, that still makes no sense.
The world fails -.-
I decided to check a GSA forum for advice since I knew this topic was there and there where a few people who where straight that said they wouldn't care if their parter was bi and a few people who where like you and got dumped for it, but after about a week they where happy again.
Also strangely enough there where a few people who where bi who said that when they where in same-sex relationships their partner disliked their bisexuality.
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Thank-you Bro :)
One more problem,
I am in Oman (Middle East) For the next month so i cant talk to my Leo :( I miss him sooo much and Oman is SOOO boring it is not worth not talking to Leo for it. Can anyone tell me what to do. I also will have reduced activity