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Title: It's my mother
Post by: Grey_Wulf on July 08, 2010, 08:22:59 AM

ok I'll fill you guys in...I'm 19, a student living at home with a further 2 years of study and no job.

Problem is that I'm going under so much stress from my mother, she takes digs at me, stirs stuff within the family to get at me, generally being as much of a pain as she can, I'm getting so much stress from it.
I not long ago gave up the notion of going to war, found something I didn't need to know about my father, the no job thing means I can't get out and spend time with friends as much as I'd like to (unfortunately nights drinking and gigs don't come free :P) and of course this means I'm unable to move out.
So anyway, I feel so trapped, unable to spread my wings to their fullest extend like I'd like to and recently, feels like I'm in a prison and the stress is building up. I meditate but that seems to be only temporary and I feel that I may reach my breaking point and still it doesn't let up.

Any advice guys? she's pretty unreasonable and if none can be offered, I thank you for taking the time to read this.

Title: Re: It's my mother
Post by: josh_down on July 08, 2010, 10:30:53 AM

i'm sorry my friend, i don't have anything specificaly helpful to say other than "welcome to being a student!" . i'm about to start my third and final year and i feel totaly trapped within my room. and i live on my own, 3 hours drive away from my parents. i can't imagine anything worse than living with my parents while at university.

you have my sympathies my friend... i'm sorry that's all that i feel i can say

Title: Re: It's my mother
Post by: Buddywolf on July 08, 2010, 02:23:53 PM

Do you have any friends you could stay with?  Could be roomies till you can get on your feet.

Title: Re: It's my mother
Post by: Grey_Wulf on July 08, 2010, 05:21:32 PM

That's an idea...my methods of travelling have been turned over because I turned 19 so I could make it around the area with more freedom now...

Title: Re: It's my mother
Post by: Self-sain on July 08, 2010, 05:31:00 PM

I would say do what buddy said just make sure if you do that they are reliable

Title: Re: It's my mother
Post by: Ares the Ram on July 09, 2010, 03:45:16 PM

my advice to you is to be 100%, positively, absolutely sure that you feel this way about your mom. if you are, try and find a friend who'd let you stay with them, get a job to help with rent if its going to be a while, and go live your life without her. I say this because, if you're wrong, it'll be very hard to go back if you turn her away now, so you better be sure its the right thing.

Title: Re: It's my mother
Post by: Srgntcuddles on July 11, 2010, 04:54:25 AM

Run away, that'll show'er. No but seriously, I'm kinda in the same position. I'm moving in with a friend. Problem solved. I've know this guy over half my life. If you have a best friend, or a good friend you can count on, go for it. If she won't let you, you're 19. You can legally gtfo. srs. ;)

Title: Re: It's my mother
Post by: AuraFox on July 19, 2010, 05:29:50 AM

when she jabs out at u jab back. if she is getting on your nerves find something to say that will get to her not enough to get into an argument but enough for her to notice and if done frequently enough she shouldn't want to nag u or watever she is doing because she knows she will be harmed in the process like shhe has been harming u.
 hopefully this helped, wulf. if u need any clerification just send me a message and we can chat