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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: codbarley on June 30, 2010, 04:40:06 AM
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How am I supposed to deal with this? I was on FA one night checking out submissions from my favorite artist, and my brother sneaks in the room (I didn't even know he was in the house!) and sees what I'm looking at and goes "HA! Wait till I tell mom!" before I knew it, the whole god damn town knows I'm furry. That isn't the worst part though. You see, I live n a rural town full of hunters and "Rednecks." So they find out that I, a guy, love animals and Anthros, and I get harassed. Oh but its not just the people in town! It's my family too! My brother picks on me for it, my dad thinks I'm a nutcase, My grandmother acts odd about it, and my mother is completely disgusted with me. I honestly don't know how to cope and it's getting bad. "run the clothes washer." "I don't know how to set it, mom." "Its the bottom left. Furry BOTTOM. You like that don't you?" oh and this other time when she gave away my cat angel. beautiful grey tiger at. Loved attention. She told me it was because she couldn't stand the litter box smell, but I took care of it every day, which means that she thought I "did things to her at night." Oh yeah, and I was cuddling up next to my Malamute, Tonka, and she was all like "you know if you have your way with him, your thing will fall off." and made an "ewww" face. my brother constantly goes "at least I don't have sex with animals!" I don't either, you retard... I'm 17 years old for christs sake! I deserve some respect from MY OWN FAMILY. So what the hell can I do, guys? I'm at the end of my rope and I just want some peace... :(
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Well their are two ways I can think of, pretty certain others can make up better ones, you can ignore it act if though that it doesn't bother you at all. Or you can have a serious talk with your parents. Make them understand that this is your life style, and respect you for who you are.
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I'd probally lose it and kill all of 'em in my sleep... Kudos for not doing that already!
But all jokes aside, I can't think of anything except for moving out ASAP.
(God-dam rednecks...)
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I'd probally lose it and kill all of 'em in my sleep... Kudos for not doing that already!
But all jokes aside, I can't think of anything except for moving out ASAP.
(God-dam rednecks...)
I'd probally lose it and kill all of 'em in my sleep... Kudos for not doing that already!
But all jokes aside, I can't think of anything except for moving out ASAP.
(God-dam rednecks...)
Yea but it's hard to live out on your on, even with friends. And the rednecks...I live in a hick town, so I know how it feels....they are days where I feel my IQ drop XD
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I'd move to Maryland. Nice where I live. :P
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Still live parents XP
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Codbarley, the worst thing you can do is to react in public. If you react to their jeers and harassment, then you have let them win already. I know it will be tough and I know it will be trying, but you can get away from them eventually if you try hard enough. You will be a much stronger person (at least in willpower) because of this situation than they will ever imagine, and their behavior will be nothing more than your common "internet troll" because they hate and "diss" what they are ignorant of.
And just to let you know, I am a redneck by how I was raised, and not everyone of the blue-collar-type is that ignorant... but I see worse behavior in my workplace.
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well, i went crazy bout a year ago, so i dont care what people think about me. maybe something you should try. if not, move out once its legal. no christmas cards for them. and if you get really rich or something, you can rub it in their faces. *diabolical laugh* heck, I work at target, and the only reason I go to my parents house is for laundry. i dont hate them, but I like being on my own, cept for my roomate, but I'm rambling so ill end by saying, we're here for ya. fur power! >:3
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This happened to me but my friend told my whole school, I was so ****** off when he did, But I just ignored them and i am trying to pass it, You should probably do the same
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Are you sure you're not me? This sounds almost exactly like my family, except that I was accused of being an "animal worshipper". You just gotta stick it out, that's all I can say. I know that sounds stupid, but... well, move out asap. That's what I did. The second I got out of high school, I started staying with my aunt and uncle (which is where I am right now) and things are getting better. Just try to hang in there.
*sympathetic GLOMP*
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Guys, I'm trying to move out RIGHT THE HELL NOW! My dad offered to let me live with him in Arizona. Altho he does think I'm a bit of a loony for being a fur, He does tend to respect me about it and I don't get any crap from him. Even though my mother hates my lifestyle choice, she's trying to "convert" me back to "normal." normal is a setting on a friggin washing machine. On top of that, my grandfather is a stubborn bastard and is insisting that I stay here because they don't want to lose their "precious little baby boy." Blegh. Nobody here gets that I'm ready to look after myself and I can't do that If my mother doesn't even let me cook Ramen when she's not home. Yeah, on top of being antifurry, she never listens to me and treats me like I know absolutely NOTHING about ANYTHING.
"Mom, can I borrow your laptop?"
"Nooo your gunna screw it up."
"Mom, I fixed that for you three times this month because YOU screwed it up."
I deal with that type of [removed] every day, but my father, heh, he can hardly look after himself. Thats exactly the kind of parenting I need in this stage of my life. the lax "whatever" will help me force myself into Making y own choices and ultimately becoming well off and successful at which point I can rub it in my families face, as you say. I'd be the first of my generation in that family to become successful. I don' want to live a poor life with a big family. I wanna be single, well paid, and left alone. I've really been trying to get her to let me go, but It eems like I'll never get out of this wasteoid town.. *cries*
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great to hear, just be sure youre ready to live alone tho, its not easy
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That's good to hear...
I'd leave in the middle of the night. They don't care enough to respect you, so why do they want you around? I'd pack my things and leave without asking/telling them. I'm sorry you have to go through this... (Huggles)
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It seem's like ALL non-fur's are hater's *Sigh*
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^ Not so true. Almost all my friends are non-furs, but they think its cool, or at the very least tolerate it.
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Fake running away sometimes works, depending on them. If you do either A. They'll get ticked off at you if you try to come back or B. They'll get all emotional and want you back.
I don't know how your family is.
I don't recommend this really though since no matter what someone's going to feel hurt inside, the thing is sometimes it helps them realize something.
And yeah, going to Arizona is a good decision.
And just going insane works wonders, and it's fun to finally get all that off.
Keeping stress built up is bad for your health anyway.
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It would be cool to live with a fellow furry
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That's good to hear...
I'd leave in the middle of the night. They don't care enough to respect you, so why do they want you around? I'd pack my things and leave without asking/telling them. I'm sorry you have to go through this... (Huggles)
wish I could. too bad mom can legally call the cops to track me down till im 18
I only haveone more year...but I can't take one more year. They've been at this for almost half my life.
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I have a few year's left too
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How am I supposed to deal with this? I was on FA one night checking out submissions from my favorite artist, and my brother sneaks in the room (I didn't even know he was in the house!) and sees what I'm looking at and goes "HA! Wait till I tell mom!" before I knew it, the whole god damn town knows I'm furry. That isn't the worst part though. You see, I live n a rural town full of hunters and "Rednecks." So they find out that I, a guy, love animals and Anthros, and I get harassed. Oh but its not just the people in town! It's my family too! My brother picks on me for it, my dad thinks I'm a nutcase, My grandmother acts odd about it, and my mother is completely disgusted with me. I honestly don't know how to cope and it's getting bad. "run the clothes washer." "I don't know how to set it, mom." "Its the bottom left. Furry BOTTOM. You like that don't you?" oh and this other time when she gave away my cat angel. beautiful grey tiger at. Loved attention. She told me it was because she couldn't stand the litter box smell, but I took care of it every day, which means that she thought I "did things to her at night." Oh yeah, and I was cuddling up next to my Malamute, Tonka, and she was all like "you know if you have your way with him, your thing will fall off." and made an "ewww" face. my brother constantly goes "at least I don't have sex with animals!" I don't either, you retard... I'm 17 years old for christs sake! I deserve some respect from MY OWN FAMILY. So what the hell can I do, guys? I'm at the end of my rope and I just want some peace... :(
Oh, wow... Doesn't that sound familiar? I get the same ---- every damn day, and it not just because I'm a furry. I'm not really going to go through this in depth, but it doesn't really look things are going to better for me either :/
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Sounds like you're in a bit of a pickle. I guess I'm lucky nobody in my family knows what a furry is (let alone cares). My brother sees my furry pages all the time then he asks "where'd you find all these sick wallpapers!?" He sounds more into it than me but I don't say nothing.
Moving out sounds a bit harsh and would tent to be a last ditch effort sort of thing if it were me. Your family seems a bit immature about all this and I don't know if there's much you can do to change that. It's a personality thing (personalities are hard to change, try asking my gf). If moving out works for you then by all means do it. But make sure you've thought all of this out and that you have a plan. You can't just up and leave without having a plan of where to go.
I ran away once. I lived in my truck for 2 weeks. It was cold, boring, lonely, and food-less...but I had never been more free in my entire life.
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Sounds like you're in a bit of a pickle. I guess I'm lucky nobody in my family knows what a furry is (let alone cares). My brother sees my furry pages all the time then he asks "where'd you find all these sick wallpapers!?" He sounds more into it than me but I don't say nothing.
Moving out sounds a bit harsh and would tent to be a last ditch effort sort of thing if it were me. Your family seems a bit immature about all this and I don't know if there's much you can do to change that. It's a personality thing (personalities are hard to change, try asking my gf). If moving out works for you then by all means do it. But make sure you've thought all of this out and that you have a plan. You can't just up and leave without having a plan of where to go.
I ran away once. I lived in my truck for 2 weeks. It was cold, boring, lonely, and food-less...but I had never been more free in my entire life.
I lost my temper and blew my top twice in the same week very recently. I can't stay here, and I do have a plan