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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: Ruffie Tealet on April 10, 2010, 12:20:11 PM
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Hi, I've been going through some parent troubles myself. Just today I got into a heated argument with my dad. I cried :'( :/
So just wondering if there are any of you out there that can relate to me. Please feel free to post your own stories here if you don't mind sharing. We're all here as a big group of buds, I'm willing to hear you out and hopefully help ^^
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My parents and I argue almost all the time but we still do have a bond which at times fell like its about to break. My parents and I usually get into fights over the computer, which I am only allowed on for an hour a day but they get all angry at me if I go 15 minutes over the hour and talk about cutting the internet off but also my sister. They always take her side (shes four years younger then me) and if i say something like shut up to my sister they bite my head off and if she says it to me they dont say anything. Argh! And she the one who always starts the arguments now days.
(Shouldnt this be in the Rants and Advice section?)
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It's more of a love relationship with mine. They know who and what I am, Bisexual and Furry, they aren't too bothered about it. They want me to do the best I can with school and college, trying to help with life and stuff like that. Sometimes we joke, but I only talk to my mother, as she knows me more, since my dad has only ever been at home on my birthday ONCE, mainly due to him being with the T.A., and the fact that he drinks aswell, but only when we're on holiday in the caravan.
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My parents and I don't get along. At best we just force ourselves to keep peace between each other. I'm a little better with my father than I am with my mother though. Moving away from home was one of the best things I've ever done.
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My father is a bully and my mother has problems. I hate living at home. I'd like to be free.
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Well, my dad is a police officer and my mom is a cook for this one place. My dad was very passive, as long as I didn't kill anyone he was fine with it. My mom on the other hand was very strict on me, but in the end I found out it was for my good and thats all the matters now.
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i don't know where to begin... there are just so many reasons for me to hate my parents, and i don't live with either of them. my father left when i was very young and decided never to contact me until recently, and my mother is manipulative and tries to control EVERYTHING around her. moving out of home was the best decision i've ever made.
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My mum has her downsides, but no more than any other person I know. I love her to bits really, and I can't help but admire her immensely. I just have to know how to navigate her mentality as I do with everyone. Yeah my mum's great.
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@Nyyrikkia: Sibling favouritsm perhaps? I'm the only child so i cant really relate to that. But theres a downside too, it made one of my biggest fears to be "being alone", thats kinda how i normally am, i hide my insecurities under my social and outgoing, funny outer shell, when inside im someone who is quite attention seeking and clingy
@Sparky : Its great how they know you're furry and bi. If my parents knew I was bi , they'd kill me, maybe not but just disown me.
@WZ : im intrigued, may i know more? *wags and sits beside you patiently*
@kutek: So you still live with your parents? So do i, gah, soon as i get to michigan this fall, and start junior year, i'll be boarding there, so my parents will be half the globe away from me.
@snow : my dad is a virgo, such a perfectionist, the reason me and my dad argued yesterday was because i flip my hair ,without my hands out of my face, and i kinda play around with my stubble, he says im like a beggar, and i look filthy. He wanted me to cut my hair and i refused , we argued, havent talked since yesterday, been preparing my own meals since he never asked, and my moms in taiwan now. So yeah.. :'(
@Sound of Silence: Just recently? Why did he contact you so randomly again?
@AsiaBunny : I hope i can navigate my dad as well. Do teach your ways master!
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@Nyyrikkia: Sibling favouritsm perhaps?
Definitely. She almost always get what she wants and they dont get angry at her about her attitude and they wont seem to see but I see that when shes a teenager shes gonna be worse then me and my parents always hit back at me saying "where do you think she learnt it from?" referring that she learnt it from me. Its not fair! And she jumps on my computer and stays on it for hours watching movies but I'm not allowed to stay on there for friggin two or three hours to type up one of my stories without my parents saying "that it will take over my life and that I ignore everything and everyone when I'm on it." One night she stayed up on it till 11 and they didnt go off, however if it was me then well...my head would have been bitten off. Argh! Sorry I needed to vent. I'll probably vent on here often if that's ok?
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@Ruffie
Awww... dude I am sorry... Thats no fun at all.
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I get along way better with my mom than I do with my dad. My dad isn't around to talk to as much as my mom and my dad picks on me a lot because he's never around and assumes that all I do is sit around and be lazy. I can tell my mom anything but I can't stand talking to my dad. Everytime I do he always tells me how much I suck at something or how I don't do things up to his standard of perfection. Does my dad help me with picking universities? No. Does my dad help me with school work? No. Does my dad make fun of me all the time. Yes. And he wonders why I'm only rude to him.
mom > dad.
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I get along with both my parents immensely. Sure there will be a time or two when I disagree with what they have to say, but usually it's for my own good. I love them to death. My parents know that both my sister and I are furry, not that they even probably understand it fully. But they seem to have no problem with it at all.
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@WZ : im intrigued, may i know more? *wags and sits beside you patiently*
Very long story to get into all of it, but... My parents never trusted me even though I never gave them a reason not to, just because my older sister made irresponsible decisions, they expected me to do the same things. Nothing I ever did was good enough for them. I get blamed for things I don't do. My mother's made fun of me and put me down my whole life, and my father knows it but doesn't care to do anything about it. And I can't talk to my parents about anything because they're very close-minded and don't understand me.
They could be worse, but I just feel better not having to be around them. When I moved out to go to college, it was like night and day how much happier I felt in general.
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Love my mother to death, could care less about my father.
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Well... my parents have been accepting no matter what i am or want to do.... for that alone i gotta love 'em... (plus my mum loves trance/techno music! ^_^ )
Also on my mum's side of the family i got all my slovakian relatives, where it not for her i wouldnt know any of 'em... theyre there whenever i need help... my dad and i joke A LOT... which really annoys my mum... and mum just loves me, so i just feel that i gotta return that....
Though yeah we do argue... quite frequently... we just have a great time when we're not arguing :3 (especially when we're in Slovakia for holidays ;) )
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Jeez I am reminded how lucky I am. Maybe just because I'm generally well disposed to people I love my parents. They don't care about what I do most of the time apart from when it matters e.g. bugging me about revision which I actually need to do. My dad started using IE which I'd previously used as a private browser with here as a homepage and didn't care, just told me not to leave myself logged into forums. Even if my Dad does drink to much he never gets drunk. He's always working or away but when he isn't we can talk about anything for ages- politics, science, general stuff. Mum is just as uncaring & caring in just the right proportions. My sister used to not get along with them as well but now she's at uni when she comes back they get along fine- not as long to get angry with each other I suppose. Anyways, life is good ^_^
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My parents.... My mom is very nice, so is my dad, I do love them, But I can't say I tell them everything.... Both Of them seem to me like they'd reject my furry side if they knew about it... So I won't say anything till I move out, or will I? Who knows...
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@Sound of Silence: Just recently? Why did he contact you so randomly again?
i have no idea, but i'm not sure i want to get to know him.
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@Spike V.: "My dad isn't around to talk to as much as my mom and my dad picks on me a lot because he's never around and assumes that all I do is sit around and be lazy. I can tell my mom anything but I can't stand talking to my dad. Everytime I do he always tells me how much I suck at something or how I don't do things up to his standard of perfection."
YES, i can so relate to that.
@nyrikkia: Feel free to do whatever you want 8D (provided you dont offend anyone or break teh rules!)
@snow : things are better now, thanks bud!
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I love both of my parents and we get along fine. I am the one that they usually go to for help when they need a hand especially when it comes to my nephew whom they have custody of cause my brother is a dead beat dad and a real piece of shit. They don't know about my furry side and they will never know cause they are not that open minded. There are things that I don't tell my parents because its for the best. Like I said they don't have an open mind and are a bit old school, but I love them none the less. They know I have costumes and thats about it.
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My parents arent as such bad to me, they just never seem to do anything good either.
My ma [censored] if I don't read her mind about whatever the hell it was I was supposed to do and in the meantime manages to be completely blind to anything I try to tell her subtly... and as if to coincide with that if I ask for support for some ridiculous school issue involving a highly immature dean (although that can be read about on this boars) she starts going on about how little I do to help her.
Then I ask what I can do.
She doesnt answer that straight either.
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I am a very different person from my parents. I love them to bits but they do give me the stabby feeling sometimes. The constant complaints are what really get to me; they are people who are just utterly incapable of appreciating just how good their lives are.
I have been living with my parents since October while some US visa stuff gets sorted. I have found it incredibly hard to be patient with them, and that patience is wearing thin. The farther I live from my parents, the better our relationship.
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they are people who are just utterly incapable of appreciating just how good their lives are.
Remove the "They are" & "Who" from that sentence & you've got a good chunk of western society right there. I am a cheery person usually, honest...
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well he and my family fight all the time...we never talk all we do is fight and my sister makes fun of me being gay
well when i am 18 i am leaving and let them rot
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well, i recently got into contact with my father, and i was right in assuming i wouldn't like him. he's very close minded, and refuses to accept when he's wrong about anything.
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I live with my mom and I think I can tell her just about anything. She doesn't judge as long as I don't harm anyone and I love her more than anything.
My parents split up twelve years ago. The first few years after that I didn't want anything to do with my dad, just too much bad blood, but now we get along fine. He comes around for coffee, we go to fantasy events together. Like my mum, he doesn't really judge, just takes me as I am, autism and general weirdness included. :)
Guess I'm really lucky with the family I've got.
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My mum is okay. My step-dad is an er... *Insert explict*.
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I don't usually feel like I have problems with them, mostly because of this problem of mine. I never really come out with anything, I don't talk to them much and even though we love each other I never feel like I can come out with them. My father is pretty unreasonable, if he disagrees with something he won't let me debate it or anything, but I've come to know how to make everything perfect for those around me. Not really much myself tho. But I'm smart so i just assess the situation and do whatever keeps me out of there problems. Yet even though I make things great for them I still hear them talking about how much of a drag I am. I don't know what the problems they talk about are but I still wonder what problems there might be. Otherwise we get along well. Even though my dad is really a step-dad i treat him like a father because I never really knew my real father, and when step-dad came I was like 3. But from what I discovered my real dad was a weed addict and a drunkard and I was made when he was to high. I'm glad I didn't come out to bad at least.
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I really don't have anything to complain about my parents. My mother is the kind one, while my father is the firm one. They both love me and my siblings. I can almost tell them everything. But I can't tell them I am furry. My father isn't the kind of person that doesn't want his kids to be anything but Mexicans. He even told me and my brother, that he doesn't want any Homos in his house. Which makes me think that my father will kick me out because I am a furry. That is the only thing I am more worried about
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I don't live with my parents anymore, that was long ago.
But when I did they were pretty alright.
:3
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My mom is just starting to go out with this doctor dude and my mom doesn't really want to spend time with me anymore. :'( :'(
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i myself have a lot of problems with my mom all the time but recently ive been having problems with my dad sionce i informed like the world that i was bi and when i told my mom she was just like "w/e so whos your bf" (she just assumes a lot thats one of her problems) anyway im just not sure where im more welcomed anymore :/ i think prolly my moms just because my brothers there (close half the time but its enough)
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I think i am slowly converting my family to accepting the fact that I am a furry one by one so lets see how this goes...
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Considering that I got in a few fights with my dad for his self righteous attitude, and really get mad at my mom for some of the "traps" she set out for me. And one lives 10 hours down south from me, while the other is always working 3rd shift and sleeping all day.
I'd say I love them allot.
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haha Rain :D i love how i sense sarcasm :D and....traps?
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In 3rd grade I got bullied by this kid, and I complained to my mom all the time about it. She encouraged me to fight, and she said she would buy me ice cream if I did.
I whopped the kid so bad, his friend had to jump in. Now at the time I didn't know what was going on because it was supposed to be a 1v1 or I would of kicked his butt too. (I didn't realize that I could fight) So he punched me in the nose and yada yada yada.
I got into ISS because I told the truth over the fact my mom called the principal and said "I got beat up." Then my mom got mad at me for telling the real story. She grounded me because I got in trouble and basically made me feel that I shouldn't of fought that kid. And that is one of the many "Traps." That my mom set for me. She did get me some kind of dairy dessert, I can't recall what it was. But I got grounded for 3-5 days.
Its rough being the firstborn >.>
And that's real talk, I still love em. I just don't listen to them with the same amount of respect I once had for them.
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Its rough being the firstborn >.>
Lol I am in the same boat as you are. eldest of two, one with a [removed] attitude and the other one is a punk, still love them, but wanna get away from them
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I guess i get along pretty good with my parents. Never have any fights or disagreements............ Only negative thing i can think of is we have completely different hobby,s.
They hate firearms, i want to start shooting at my local range. I like computers end stuff, they are just about able to use the keyboard and webbrowser.
I like programming etc, they just see a bunch of text on the screen.
(Nothing annoys me more then when i get an application working after 2 days of rewriting code, run downstairs screaming "it works, it finally works",
and they just respond with "meh... dont understand" an just continue doing whatever they where doing >:()
Basicly, the only two things we have in common, is my love for horses with my mother, and motorcycle addiction with my father.
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My dad refuses to see me as of a few months ago due to my bisexuality, win, my mom, I find it hard to talk to her... My real parents are my grandparents, they raised me and I can talk to them about anything.
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My parents separated when I was 7, and in the 13 years since I've been able to see my dad few enough times that I can probably count them on one hand.I live with my mom, but she tends to get on my nerves a lot, but still less than my stepfather. Not that I find any of them to be bad people, just irritating or absent. I can't make a joke around my stepdad because he takes it too seriously and ruins it by putting in his own serious opinions, which are commonly based upon stereotypes, and follows it up with yet another story from his years as a troublemaking youth to which I will never be able to relate, as my adolescence is past and any trouble in which i was involved was started by others or even fictitious. Anything I do that he doesn't approve of he blames on the fact I smoke the MaryJane, and that really grinds my gears.
This isn't to say there aren't good times too; we've gone camping and that was fun (especially when my parents' air mattress went flat overnight and mine didn't >:3), mom and I play cards now and then, and it's fun. They easily accepted who and what I am, they support me with whatever I want to do (occasionally giving advice that I listen to when maybe I shouldn't), they pay my cell phone bill for now, and i only need to pay them back if i actually manage to cost them more money than what's covered. Overall, we're neutral towards one another with moments of hostility and moments of friendliness. The hostility usually comes when they push the subject of my single poor mark in school, which they haven't done since a clock got thrown at my door last year and took a chunk out of it. Next time, if there is one; it's close to the end of my last year now, I'm just gonna try and ignore them. Maybe that way it won't escalate to a shouting match like it always has before.
Also, @ ZW: I'm in the complete opposite situation as you and your sis: As the youngest of 3, I think I understand the 'older sibling' complex fairly well as it applies to me; thanks to the rep my troublemaking older brothers had, my mom always kept me under a magnifying glass(I swear she'd have put a tracking collar on me if she could :P) and I'd always get harsher punishments than my brothers did. I was constantly getting suspended and missed half of the school year every year until I hit grade 9, and it only changed then because i was in a school my brothers didn't go to. I was SO surprised when the end of the year came and I realized that I hadn't gotten into any trouble that whole year, despite doing nothing different! Now I'm in the same high school as they went to, but most of the staff is different and they don't know my brothers, so i still don't get in any unreasonable trouble.
*sigh* Time to scoop the cat litter, so I guess I'm done now. Whoa, didn't realize I'd typed so much.
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all those who can evade all the BS that some parents give, I am happy for you, though, for me, the past 2 weeks has been hell, my parents took away everything, I was basically locked away in bedroom everyday, and for once school was a relief... :( though there is really no way they can stop me from being who I am, so I keep at it... ;)
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My parents did something similar to me for not being patriotic :(
And it was the summer so I didn't have school to look forward to and I couldn't do anything outside, finally I managed to smuggle a book into my room since I love reading but it was only a temporary thing....
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bleh, thats terrible dude..... I agree... if its the U.S., its really not a country to be all that proud of any more... too much underground corruption, and crap like that...
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Yeah, and the 'U.S. love' was created by Socialists who hoped that America could easily become fascist for a total takeover and we'd still love it. And so far their plans are working.
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Please stay on topic.
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I can't complain. My mom never wants me to leave. And my dad is the coolest, even though I don't see him more than a couple times a year. I could kill someone, but as long as I was straight with him it was alright.
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My mom always used to pull off the, "This is a dictatorship in this house." Eventally, she got owned by my rebellion stage. The whole Anarchy phase was defiantly worthwhile. She works allot, so I don't see her much.
My dad is a conservative Christian, everything is about Jesus for him. 80% of our fights revolved around Jesus, the other 20 was about his mom. (Long story there.) And hes very stubborn, considering his Chinese zodiac is a sheep. He lives 10 hours away from me, so I don't see him much.
Kinda made my own family anyway. Still looking for more of those family members too.
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my family is akward...my mother anf father broke up when i was 5 and i had to get pherapy for 2 years before going into a state of sheer "FUUUUUUUUUUU everything" and became an emo. then about 4 years later my dad got on my nerves by revealing he got a random alchoholic pregnant and i told him to "get the **** out of my life and go kill himself" then my half sister was born with a mild disfigarment as a result of my dad's girlfriend's achoholism then she died from cancer my dad got annoyed and moved my sister into my gran's house (making my sister lose her friends,home,grandparents and way of life in 1 week) now my dad and sister live in my grandmother's house and im an emotionally numb person who would probably stab my father in the face if i got the chance...
so yeah my life has been pretty crap so far :(
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my mum is a total bish. when she wants to be but i guess thats not too fair seeing shes an awesome mother and im just too spoilt x.x *hate sto admit but i guess its true* *sigh* i dont wanna be spoilt!
at, times. like, when im 'late' for school, and i get there five minutes before the bell and shes all like YOURE LATE and takes my ipod from me. :l
my ipod is like, my boredom release at school.
and shes all like, YOU DIDNT GET AN A! YOU COULD HAVE DONE BETTER! for my english assignment, hello? I got. B, B, A, B, B. above average. and shes telling me i let myself down.
jesus she wont leave me alone about school ;(
other than that shes cool.
um she read my texts about me liking a guy and didnt care LOL
Post Merge: June 14, 2010, 11:12:24 PM
my family is akward...my mother anf father broke up when i was 5 and i had to get pherapy for 2 years before going into a state of sheer "FUUUUUUUUUUU everything" and became an emo. then about 4 years later my dad got on my nerves by revealing he got a random alchoholic pregnant and i told him to "get the **** out of my life and go kill himself" then my half sister was born with a mild disfigarment as a result of my dad's girlfriend's achoholism then she died from cancer my dad got annoyed and moved my sister into my gran's house (making my sister lose her friends,home,grandparents and way of life in 1 week) now my dad and sister live in my grandmother's house and im an emotionally numb person who would probably stab my father in the face if i got the chance...
so yeah my life has been pretty crap so far :(
AWW!
*hugs*
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Honestly, I haven't been furry all that long. I've enjoyed the art work for about a year or two, but it wasn't until about 2 weeks ago I realized I was a furry :P
My point being I haven't told them, or anyone yet.
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