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A small rant
« on: January 15, 2013, 06:18:22 AM »
Just something that's been kind of bothering me recently.
It seems like nobody actually cares if I stay in their life or not. I constantly am seeing tons of people who other people love to be with/would die for. But for me, it's like I hardly matter to most of my friends. Most of the time they pretty much forget I exist and I'm the one who has to call them to do anything. For example, today my friend called me:
Friend: "hey dude me and *other friend* want to know if you have your car tonight so we don't have to walk"
Me: "uh...no it's in the shop"
Friend "oh damn.." *hangs up*.
To me it's like there's some big thing everyone has that makes them interesting and worth spending time with that I just missed out on. I even think that I give off this vibe online, because most people couldn't care less if I talk to them or not, and when I do I receive one word answers. I don't know, maybe it's just teenage angst, but I've always felt insignificant in other people's lives.
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Re: A small rant
« Reply #1 on: January 15, 2013, 06:25:28 AM »
If i did't care what you said i wouldnt be posting this. Dount worry i know how you feal. Its like im a last option friend. I only get called if theres no one else to hang out with.  And if i want to hang out its very rare that they say yes. Maby try making some new friends. Im not the best at motavational speches but i hope i helped a little bit.
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Re: A small rant
« Reply #2 on: January 15, 2013, 01:15:46 PM »
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Re: A small rant
« Reply #3 on: January 15, 2013, 08:18:03 PM »
A person tends to have a much bigger effect on others lives than they actually know, and in the same way a lot of people don't realize how important someone else is until they're gone. I think you should try and see that it's not really useful to think that people don't care about you, and also realize that people may very well care about you. When in this state of mind you generally just focus on the negative things and ignore the positive things, so try and look out for how people care about you, an example is the replies on this very thread.

  I believe people care about you, I can't really prove it and there is a chance I'm wrong, but I still think people care about you.
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Re: A small rant
« Reply #4 on: January 15, 2013, 08:43:15 PM »
As Anoni said, a lot of times people really do care about you but they don't know how to express it or don't actually realize it until they miss you. I had an experience like that myself, where I thought my best friend really only kept me around because I was good at helping him fix stuff and do favors for him, and I was ready to tell him off for good. But that turned out not to be the case at all, and we're still really good friends to this day.


Regardless of whether or not that's the case with you, you do at least have my sympathy, because I don't think that anyone you consider a real "friend" should treat you like yours are. I would also advise to try and focus as much on the positives as you can, even if you don't do it very much, because I know that people around here do care about each other. If you want to talk about it further, I always welcome PMs.  :3
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Re: A small rant
« Reply #5 on: January 16, 2013, 10:17:30 PM »
I suppose you guys are right. I suppose nobody can really see how much other people care until it really matters. I suppose I'm just waiting for it to matter :P
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Re: A small rant
« Reply #6 on: January 16, 2013, 10:29:44 PM »
I had a similar situation in high school. They only contacted me when they needed something. Those friends eventually floated away. It never really bothered me since it was pretty clear they were not my good friends, who are still around today. You're lucky to have a few friends, extremely lucky to have a few true friends.
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Re: A small rant
« Reply #7 on: January 17, 2013, 09:37:07 PM »
I agree with Aakosir. I used to have a lot of "friends" who I never heard from and pretty much could've cared less about me. They ended up being left behind when I began to grow into a happier and more confident person. Before that, they would only contact me when they needed something, and never cared about me or how I was.

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Re: A small rant
« Reply #8 on: January 18, 2013, 02:35:07 PM »
I agree with Aakosir. I used to have a lot of "friends" who I never heard from and pretty much could've cared less about me. They ended up being left behind when I began to grow into a happier and more confident person. Before that, they would only contact me when they needed something, and never cared about me or how I was.

And they were usually the ones who drug you down more than your own thoughts, right? A lot of kids go through this. It's a little different for each one, but the end result is almost always the exact same.
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